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Relationship Analysis Questionnaire

  • PAY CLOSE ATTENTION TO WHO IS DOING THE "WANTING."

  • EVERY ANSWER MUST BE A DIFFERENT NUMBER.

  • PICK A SPECIFIC TIME PERIOD.

  • USE THE EXAMPLES ONLY AS A GUIDE.

LET THE NUMBER YOU CHOOSE REFLECT THESE MEANINGS:
From 00 to 05 = "It doesn't happen" or "Not at all."
From 06 to 15 = "It goes terribly."
From 16 to 25 = "It goes very badly."
From 26 to 35 = "It goes badly."
From 36 to 45 = "It goes a little badly."
From 46 to 55 = "It doesn't go well or badly. It's in the middle."
From 56 to 65 = "It goes a little well."
From 66 to 75 = "It goes well."
From 76 to 85 = "It goes very well."
From 86 to 95 = "It goes extremely well."
From 96 to 100 = "It goes fantastically!"

The Questions

  In this situation... How does it go?
  1. When you want to take care of the other person
Examples
  • "Can I get you a soda?"
  • "Would you like a back rub?"
  • "You look tired, let me put the kids to bed."

Enter a number between 0-100.
See chart above
  2. When the other person wants to take care of you
Examples:
  • "Can I get you a soda?"
  • "Would you like a back rub?"
  • "You look tired, let me put the kids to bed."

Enter a number between 0-100.
See chart above
  3. When you want to be taken care of by the other person
Examples:
  • "Can I get you a soda?"
  • "Would you like a back rub?"
  • "You look tired, let me put the kids to bed."

Enter a number between 0-100.
See chart above
  4. When the other person wants to be taken care of by you
Examples:
  • "Can I get you a soda?"
  • "Would you like a back rub?"
  • "You look tired, let me put the kids to bed."

Enter a number between 0-100.
See chart above
  5. When you want to share opinions with the other person
Examples:
  • "We deserve a vacation."
  • "Children should be seen and not heard."
  • "Our religion is best."

Enter a number between 0-100.
See chart above
  6. When the other person wants to share opinions with you
Examples:
  • "We deserve a vacation."
  • "Children should be seen and not heard."
  • "Our religion is best."

Enter a number between 0-100.
See chart above
  7. When you want to think clearly with the other person
Examples:
  • "How can we get there from here?"
  • "Let's figure it out together."
  • "Will you explain to me how you did that?"

Enter a number between 0-100.
See chart above
  8. When the other person wants to think clearly with you
Examples:
  • "How can we get there from here?"
  • "Let's figure it out together."
  • "Will you explain to me how you did that?"

Enter a number between 0-100.
See chart above
  9. When you want to have sex with the other person
Examples:
  • Playfully teasing and inviting.
  • Sharing fantasies.
  • Having sex, making love, etc.

Enter a number between 0-100.
See chart above
  10. When the other person wants to have sex with you
Examples:
  • Playfully teasing and inviting.
  • Sharing fantasies.
  • Having sex, making love, etc.

Enter a number between 0-100.
See chart above

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To find the Moment of Greatest STRESS in your relationship, add 5 points to your answers for #5 and #6... and subtract 5 points from your answers for # 9 and #10. Then find the LOWEST score out of all 10 questions and go to Moment of Great Stress

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APA Reference
Staff, H. (2008, December 28). Relationship Analysis Questionnaire, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2020, July 5 from https://www.healthyplace.com/self-help/inter-dependence/relationship-analysis-questionnaire

Last Updated: August 15, 2014

Medically reviewed by Harry Croft, MD

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