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Yesterday evening, I physically and emotionally disconnected from myself for some time. I felt like I was watching my meat suit cry because she could no longer take being locked in at home with no physical escape. That's right, I was having a meltdown because of COVID-19's lockdown restrictions since March. But this was no regular meltdown because I was watching myself have it as if I were another person. This out of body experience is a form of dissociation and I'm sure you've experienced it too, whether it's for a few minutes or hours, or for weeks and months. And in me and my friends' experience, you do not need to have Dissociative Indentity Disorder (DID) to experience dissociation. Merely having depression is enough to dissociate on occasion. 
My schizoaffective anxiety spikes with the summer heat. But it’s spiking dramatically this summer, the summer of COVID-19. I dearly hope--with everyone else--that there will be a vaccine by next summer. For now, here’s how I’m coping, or, in some ways, not coping.
When you consider how sex addiction might impact a marriage, some might believe that the effects would be more positive than negative. However, after being married for a couple years now and actively fighting through sex and pornography addiction, I can tell you that is not always the case. Sex addiction does not imply a perfectly fulfilled sex life. Instead, just like any other addictive, life-altering behavior or substance, sex addiction can take over your life and result in unhealthy, compulsive behaviors and thoughts. I wish that my sex addiction resulted in a perfect sex life and complete contentment in my sexual relationship, but that isn't my story at all. There have been a lot of twists and turns along the way that impacted my marriage in addiction recovery.
Self-injury, like most mental health disorders, exists on a spectrum. Some people only ever engage in relatively minor acts of self-harm, while for others the situation may become more serious. If you suspect your self-harm is getting worse, it is important to not only recognize that truth but also take steps now to keep yourself from sliding down a dangerous slippery slope.
An anxiety plan is something you can create on your own or with a therapist as a type of mental health treatment plan. Such a plan can be as simple as anxiety-reducing ideas jotted down in a dedicated notebook or as complex as a detailed record of medications tried and the success you had with each, notes you take when visiting with your doctor and/or therapist, the symptoms you experience and the circumstances in which you notice them, and any other detail about your anxiety and treatment of it that you find helpful. For the purposes of this post, the concept of an anxiety plan will be simple and involve a record of activities that help you reduce your anxiety levels. 
There are many stereotypes and assumptions about introverted and extroverted people. For instance, extroverts are stereotyped as social butterflies. Introverts, on the other hand, are stereotyped as hermits. However, the stereotypes and assumptions for introverts and extroverts are not true for everyone.
In a recent post, I discussed the frustrations I’ve encountered dealing with people reacting to anxiety who, in my opinion, don’t do it in a way that’s helpful. I mentioned viewing anxiety as something scary and deviant isn’t the right way to do it, and that the reality of living with anxiety should be viewed with more nuance. I want to go a bit further into this in this post, suggesting that the reality of living with anxiety is much more mundane.
The decision to disclose your bipolar diagnosis at work is an important one. You may feel unsure of whether or not you should speak to your employer about your illness, or worried that you could face professional or personal repercussions for speaking up. There are risks to talking about bipolar at work, as well as potential benefits.
If you have a history of eating disorder behaviors or mindsets, then you have most likely body checked yourself, or stood in front of a mirror and scrutinized your reflection with a severe and merciless eye. Chances are, you understand how it feels to wither beneath your own cruel gaze which repeatedly dissects the size, weight, shape, and curvature of a frame that will never be adequate to you. This ritual is known as compulsive body checking, and it can worsen your eating disorder tendencies. But if that toxic pattern sounds familiar, rest assured, it is possible to break yourself of a compulsive body checking habit.
When you trust your decisions, your self-esteem will grow. People with poor self-esteem often second-guess themselves and defer to others' opinions. While it's true that there are people who know more than you do on almost every topic, there is one subject on which you are the world's leading expert, and that subject is you.

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Megan Griffith
Thank you so much, I'm glad this post resonated with you! All of those things are true, just hard to remember in times of difficulty.
TJ DeSalvo
I don't think this is an either/or thing. You should try to be able to deal with anxiety as well as you possibly can, but if you know what makes you anxious, then it makes sense to take steps to prevent yourself from being in those situations.
Bat-Ori
Which do you think works better, trying to stay in anxiety-free situations or trying to become stronger and more tolerant of anxiety? The second seems like a better plan - anxiety will find a way round your best defences - but how do you become stronger?
Valeria
Please talk more about it. Give examples of the differences in been intentional and set goals. I need more of you here please. Thank you
Kim Berkley
Hi, Katie. I'm glad you pointed this out—self-harm can become emotionally addictive for many people, to the point where (like you said) an obvious trigger isn't really needed for cravings to occur. Just like any other addiction, a seemingly good day won't necessarily prevent someone from feeling like they want, or have, to hurt themselves. And that can be really hard to understand for people who don't understand addiction, or who don't recognize the addictive potential of self-harm.

Thank you so much for sharing this, Katie. I know it can't have been easy to live with those feelings, but by sharing them here, you're helping all the others reading who might have felt the same—and perhaps even thought they were the only ones to feel that way—remember that they are not alone.