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As children grow up, they eventually leave the family home, or nest, to pursue their dreams and aspirations. Whether they go to college, explore the world, or start a new job, it may be a challenging and emotional step for parents. Therefore, by preparing for the empty nest chapter of life, parents can be proactive in not letting depression set in for an extended period. The empty nest phase is embarking on me quickly, and I am unprepared. 
Finding comfort in chaos has been a pattern for me and my unresolved trauma. Especially before I sought treatment for my childhood sexual assault, and often without realizing it, I would feel somewhat "addicted" to emotional pain. In other words, I felt most myself when there was some sort of conflict in my life, whether it was a physical health condition or a relationship issue. While I didn't actively want these things to be happening, I did find comfort in the chaos they stirred up.
While randomly browsing the Internet in 2015, I came across a powerful phrase: Be who you needed when you were younger. At the time, I was a recent college graduate who had no idea what to do with her life. As a result, the phrase seemed irrelevant to someone like me. However, knowing what I know now, I am convinced that anyone can live by this motto if they want to. You can be who you needed to be when you were younger.
Trauma splitting (a type of emotional detachment) can be a common side effect after facing verbal abuse. This coping mechanism can happen to individuals of any age. However, children with verbally abusive parents will often develop trauma splitting to separate their normal personality from the traumatized one. 
When I revert back to an anorexic mindset, it becomes all about earning my worth. Even if I resist the urge to act out eating disorder behaviors, I can still be susceptible to the anorexic mindset, which tells me I need to strive past my own limitations and prove that I am strong, capable, resilient, and valuable. I have a difficult time believing that my self-worth is inherent, so I force myself to achieve it—even if that means I hustle to the edge of burnout with no room to pause, breathe, and rest. An anorexic mindset is all about earning my worth, but l will be honest: This performance-based mentality creates a miserable existence at times.
One part of my treatment for schizoaffective disorder is an antianxiety medication I take as needed. I’ve been taking it for decades, but now my psychiatric nurse practitioner (NP) wants to ween me off of it. I have mixed feelings about this change in my schizoaffective treatment.
It's hard to deal with anxiety when you're going through change. Change can feel scary and unpredictable, and even more so when you are already feeling stress and pressure in other areas of life. This is something I have experienced recently. Over the years, this anxiety trigger has been something I have worked hard on learning how to cope with. Years ago, I would find that any time any major life changes occurred, I would feel extremely anxious.
Co-fronting with alternate personalities (alters) in dissociative identity disorder (DID) is something I only recently learned about. Sharing my mind with multiple identities, each with thoughts, feelings, and perspectives, lends itself to interesting conversations. These internal complexities can lead to co-fronting (when two or more alters are in control of the body at the same time) while significantly influencing how conversations unfold internally and externally, depending on the factors present at the time. 
Everyone has habits -- both healthy and unhealthy habits. Healthy habits might be drinking enough water throughout the day. Unhealthy might be drinking excessively every night. Lately, I am finding that some of my past behaviors and thought patterns have contributed to some of my unhealthy habits today. To learn more about my discoveries and experiences with habits, continue reading this blog post.
In the pursuit of nurturing self-esteem, my journey spans nearly two decades of mindfulness meditation practice and affirmations. The profound influence of mindfulness meditation practice has allowed me to comprehend the potency residing within my own mind, transforming it from a tumultuous sea of thoughts into a serene sanctuary that nurtures my self-esteem. Affirmations have a power all their own.

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Preston Vance
Hey Natasha, I have the exact same thing with my bipolar. Musical earworms usually in a chord sequence I make up in my head but if I hear a song it will replace it with that. Only shuts off when I get distracted. Funny thing is, it didn't start until I started taking Quetiapine with my Lamotrigine.
Em
I need advice asap, I have scars across my whole lower left arm and I have dance with a teacher who makes us wear leotards that show our whole arms and doesn't allow any layers. I don't have any plasters, makeup or bracelets and my scars are quite red and bumpy, any ideas?
Dianna Shelton
Hi there my name is Dianna. You have to forgive yourself for doing it to yourself and to move forward you choose you. You look yourself in the mirror and you say I love you and it’s what we tell ourselves you say I will and I can move forward it’s the whole cycle of abuse you know the fights we love each other and then the honeymoon phase and fighting so it’s a chemical issue and happening in the brain so you have to substitute That for something positive now, gardening walking exercise, sunshine swimming you don’t need a man you don’t need anyone’s validation and the forgiveness. You have to forgive yourself OK so important get rid of anything that he reminds you of it was jewelry get rid of it you have to learn to love yourself , I’m so sorry you went through this we are addicted to the chaos we’re addicted to the abuse it’s somewhere in your childhood possibly maybe you can’t remember so we re-created it and our adulthood also, maybe there’s something you’re really feeling guilty about from your childhood to stay strong you have to stay smart especially if you’re a mother if you can’t do it for you you can do it for your angels your babies you’re grown children whatever it is You deserve happiness he’s not capable of love all that is his powering control. You know that he grew up with that. It’s a different time now women are feminist women can be alone you have to take the control. It’s your term now to rescue your inner child this happened possibly in your childhood but it has a happy ending. Nobody can save you but yourself nobody can do it for you but you And this time you’re gonna be careful where you put yourself try prayer if you’re lonely get in with the church group I want you to make it. My thoughts and prayers are with you. You have to fight the addiction you have to if you have to take a nap whatever it is get some sun get some exercise get in with church Day at a time and the flags know the red flags you have to take it slow next time give your self a chance you can be happy all alone you can try being friends OK you have to protect yourself can you can you just please protect yourself all the best all God‘s blessings on you take care of yourself Stay smart stay safe!
Andrea
I cannot find the APA journal article you referenced.
Mina
I've been looking around different websites, since I'm having trouble comprehending some stuff, but I do have a question.
What does it mean when someone says 'source'? Like, is it the origin of said fictive/alter?
I'm currently trying to figure out if i have DID or OSDD-1b or not. And i'm trying to figure out certian terms/vocabulary so i can understand this better-

I would appreciate if someone replies!