TJ DeSalvo
I don’t know how many people feel limited by anxiety, but if I were to make a bet, I would say that quite a few people are impacted by the limitations of anxiety, so I figured a post is recommended. When I am anxious, I find that there are certain things that I am unable to do because they are too mentally taxing. I’m not talking about things that I’m uncomfortable doing anyway – these are things that I love doing, things that I would ordinarily spend a lot of time doing if I wasn’t anxious.
Annabelle Clawson
Hard conversations are, well, hard. Maybe you are waiting for another person to initiate; perhaps you don't want to ruin your relationship. You might convince yourself that there's nothing to talk about, that issues will magically melt away soon enough. Most of the time, unfortunately, this isn't true--most of the time, you need to have a difficult conversation.
Martyna Halas
This post is not necessarily about wrist scars, as self-harm can come in many forms. This is just a reflection on my personal experiences with self-injury in the wrist and forearm area, as that's where I used to hurt myself. I feel most people react to scars similarly, especially if their reaction comes from ignorance or fear rather than love. Therefore, this might be helpful if you know someone who self-harms, and you wonder how to behave around them.
Kate Beveridge
It can be easy to fall into a victim mentality with borderline personality disorder (BPD). You can often feel like your brain is working against you and making life unnecessarily hard. However, treating yourself as a victim can be detrimental and prevent you from recovering and moving on from traumatic events. 
Laura A. Barton
I feel as though people like to think about incidents of mental health stigma as little pockets in time, but really it lives beyond the moment it happens. It's not compartmentalized or filed away. We know stigma can have negative impacts on a person, but understanding the depth of those impacts starts with understanding how long that moment of stigma can exist for a person.
Jennifer Lear
The "Iceberg Theory" is a frequently cited model of behavior which states that a person's behavior can only be properly understood in the context of the factors that caused it. What a person does is "the tip of the iceberg"-- what we don't see are the emotional, social, cultural, and other factors that lie "beneath the surface" to cause that behavior.
Elizabeth Caudy
A blessing was recently bestowed upon my family--my brother, Billy, and his life partner, Sandy, had a baby girl whom I adore. Even though they live in California and I live in Illinois, and even though I haven’t yet met Baby, watching videos of her has quickly become one of my coping skills for my schizoaffective anxiety.
Kim Berkley
Hurting yourself to get out of work or school can seem like a tempting option—maybe even your only option—when you're overwhelmed and feeling trapped. But it's ultimately a solution that causes more problems than it solves.
Tanya J. Peterson, MS, NCC, DAIS
As explored in a previous post, health stress and health anxiety can be exhausting and burdensome. Our health is a vital component of our lives, and when something isn't right, whether it's a chronic condition or an acute, short-lived experience, it is natural to experience anxiety and stress because of it. Here's how to gain the upper hand on health stress and anxiety.
TJ DeSalvo
Sometimes, stressful things can happen without the slightest hint of warning. Recently, I woke up to find that my laptop had just stopped working. I had used it the previous evening, and it seemed fine. But then, for whatever reason, the hard drive just died.

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I have a question I'm currently in therapy and my therapist wants to speak with my self sabotage parts as to find out what they want my system to avoid talking about but they are reluctant to even sharing talk with my therapist and even me I don't realy understand my sabotage part how is my sabotage part protecting me as part of my system if it's sabotaging?
Tanya J. Peterson, MS, NCC, DAIS
Hi Nadia,
It's important to include your son in the process of finding a mentor. In fact, gently encouraging him to identify people he respects and helping him brainstorm ways to approach them will show him that you believe in his ability to advocate for himself and take the action steps he needs to take to move forward. Anxiety, of course, does make this very difficult because he may not be comfortable with it. Start small and let him get used to the idea of having a mentor. He might start by thinking of something that is important to him, like a goal he has or something he wants to do more of but can't because of anxiety. Then, he can list pros and cons of having a mentor to help him move toward what is important to him. When he sees for himself how a mentor can help him, he may be more willing to (but still anxious about) identifying someone to work with. You could help him develop ways to approach the person on the top of his list (it's always wise to have several possibilities because someone might not be able to do it). Working with a therapist might also help your son develop confidence and tools for reaching out to a mentor. It might take some time, but the process itself is an important part of working through anxiety.
I have a different self-harm reaction. It leaves no scars, but leaves a residue on health. As I drift off, I twist my finger or more often, a wrist. A brief dose of pain brings me back to the ground. However, I have worn the wrist-brace several times for this reason.
My 15yo son suffers from crippling anxiety. He hates it so much. HE doesn't understand why its happening he just knows that it is. He often describes it as either there is an electrical current going through his body or there is a ping pong ball full of electricity bouncing around his body and it doesn't feel pleasant. It doesn't hurt but stops him from so many activities such as school etc.
Lizanne Corbit
This is beautifully expressed. Something like mental health stigma can so easily be attributed to the perceived moment of stigma, but the impact and the impression, are oftentimes so much more than that. Thank you for opening up this conversation and sharing your perspective. I imagine many can resonate and relate to this.