Adult ADHD and Roommates
Before I start talking about how having Adult ADHD can affect being a roommate, I want to say I hope you all have a really great week this week. Mondays can be super hard - you've just gotten over the fact that yesterday was Sunday (maybe you had the ADHD Weekend Blues even) and now you have to start a whole week or school and/or work (my apologies to those of you I am leaving out of this by saying that - those of you who don't work the "typical" workweek). Anyway, have a great week ... now, roommate talk.I like to talk about what is happening in my life right now. First, it's the easiest way for me to keep up on blogging once a week and second, sometimes timely things are important things! On Friday night, one of my favorite people moved into my apartment. She's having a hard go of it right now and needs a place to crash for a few months. My wife and I said, "Heck yeah!" and now we have to figure out how to be roommates to someone other than each other and our two meow-zers.
My go-to with situations I'm unfamiliar with or struggling with is google. The other day I googled "How to be a good roommate." In the past, I've googled things like "How to get over a pet passing away" and "How to get rid of fleas." I love that google can open up my world to the thoughts of those who have gone before me. It helps me to see if my feelings are "normal" for a given situation and it can lead to some good strategies.
Anyway, roommate. Being a roommate often lasts long past college. With how expensive it is to have an apartment and how little many of us young adults make (especially those like me who are in school full-time), sharing space and rent can make a lot of sense. Unfortunately, it can also bring stress with it. According to google and my own relatively-good sense, here is a list of things to do to be a good roommate, even with Adult ADHD.;
- Let your roommate know what is hard for you and what to expect when you're having a bad Adult ADHD day.
- Confront things head on and before the problem if possible. If something the other person is doing is bothering you, say so early and it won't build up until you bust.
- Talk openly about money. Who will pay what and when?
- Talk openly about chores. If you hate a chore, say so. Your roommate might just love it.
- Discuss quiet time schedules. If you're sensitive to noise or light, let it be known that at certain times it would work best for you to have fewer sensory inputs.
- Let your roommate know the best way for you to hear criticism etc. Roommates can be stressful and Adult ADHD often implies that your fuse might be shorter than your roommate's. If you tell them how you like to hear things and they comply, your living situation can be much comfier.
- Set boundaries. If something is yours and yours alone, say so.
There are probably about a million more strategies out there, but blogs posts are supposed to be fewer than 500 words and I'm already at 551. 552. Whoops. 554.
Prager, E. (2013, November 18). Adult ADHD and Roommates, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2020, July 5 from https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/livingwithadultadhd/2013/11/adult-adhd-and-roommates