Recreate Yourself and Your Life
Self creation is about creating yourself all over again. Starting fresh and rebuilding yourself to become the very best you, you've ever imagined. It's about becoming the person you want to be and creating a life that reflects that vision.
"If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours." - Henry David Thoreau
You can't really do this until you have the ground work established. What is the ground work?
You can not create yourself and your life anew without taking personal responsibility for who and where you are right now. I do not mean responsibility in a sense of blame or judgment, but responsibility so far as ownership and control.
"This life is yours. Take the power to control your own life. No one else can do it for you. Take the power to make your life happy." - Susan Polis Schutz
For many, it is a major paradigm shift when they begin to see themselves and everything in their lives as a direct result of themselves. The idea that we alone create who we are can be overwhelming, particularly if you associate that responsibility with guilt, blame or shame. Taking ownership isn't about judging your life, but simply seeing what's there and knowing your part in it all. This is not about finding fault, making judgments of right or wrong, good or bad, but simply one of ownership.
Yes, other people and events do have influence on our lives, but it is us, and us alone who determine which influences to emphasis, what meaning we give to those influences, and what beliefs we'll create based on those influences.
You are responsible for your beliefs.
You are responsible for your thoughts.
You are responsible for your feelings.
You are responsible for your actions.
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I remember a story I heard about a father and his son. The father wanted to get some paperwork done before he took his son to the park. To keep his son occupied until he finished his work, he tore a picture of the world out of a magazine, and then tore it into little pieces. He told his son when he had finished putting the puzzle together, they would go to the park. Expecting this to take his son quite some time to accomplish, he was surprised when his son returned shortly thereafter with the completed puzzle. The father asked his son, "how were you able to finish the puzzle so quickly?" His son answered him saying "there's a picture of a man on the other side, and when I put the man together, the pieces of the world just fell into place."
So to put yourself together first. Become clear about who you really are. Uncover the enormous warehouse of beliefs you've acquired from other people and our culture and challenge those beliefs. Transform your self-doubt into acceptance, your self-pity into self-actualization, your anxiety into peace, your confusion into happiness, and your fears into love. The first step is knowing what you want to be, do and have.
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Staff, H. (2008, December 18). Recreate Yourself and Your Life, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, March 2 from https://www.healthyplace.com/relationships/creating-relationships/recreate-yourself-and-your-life