How Therapy Changed My Life

Therapy has changed my life. I wanted to go to therapy for years, but I only got access when I reached my breaking point in 2017. While I wish I had sought help sooner, I'm grateful I finally did because, honestly, therapy changed my life in unexpected ways. Whether you are on the fence about it or have decided it's not for you, read on to know just how impactful seeing a therapist can be. 

How Therapy Started Changing My Life

When I first walked into a therapist's office, I wasn't sure if anyone could help me; I felt I was that far gone. However, as I began to speak, the mere act of talking about what was bothering me--my traumatic divorce--was cathartic. It was refreshing to be in a space where I could express myself without fear of judgment. Still, my early sessions were tough.

Until then, only my diary knew the intricate details of what went on in my mind. Suddenly, I had to talk about my innermost thoughts and feelings to someone I didn't know personally. I still remember how difficult it was to voice my struggles with chronic depression, especially how it sometimes led to suicidal ideation. Through gentle questioning, I was pushed to confront feelings I had buried for years, feelings that inevitably came up when I narrated upsetting past events.

It sometimes felt unnecessary, but I didn't know then that I had to undergo these processes to get to the core of who I was so therapy could change my life. Somewhere in my short-lived marriage, I had lost my sense of self and turned into someone I didn't like. Therapy helped me recover, strengthen, and own my true identity. 

Therapy Changed My Life in More Ways Than One

Apart from reclaiming my sense of self, therapy also changed my life by teaching me the importance of self-compassion. I had spent years being my worst critic, often berating myself for not being good enough. My therapist helped me see how damaging this self-talk was and guided me toward a kinder relationship with myself. Thanks to her, I have finally learned how to treat myself with the same compassion I would offer a loved one. 

It also gave me tools that I continue to use daily. For example, I can now set healthy boundaries with others and myself. I have become more aware of my triggers and have developed strategies to manage them before they cause problems in my personal and professional life. Indeed, as challenging as it can be, good therapy provides many benefits. 

Even though I initially sought therapy to get through a crisis, I continue to go because it's become an essential part of my self-care routine. I believe the therapeutic space isn't just for coping with tough times. Instead, it's a space you can visit anytime to reflect, heal, and become a better version of yourself. Therapy changed my life in more ways than one, and I will always be glad that I trusted the process.