Dance and Movement Therapy for Depression

Can dance and movement really help relieve depression symptoms? Find out if dance and movement therapy is an alternative treatment for depression.

Can dance and movement really help relieve depression symptoms? Find out if dance and movement therapy is an alternative treatment for depression.

What is Dance and Movement Therapy?

In this type of therapy, a dance therapist helps a group of people to express themselves in movement. Expressing feelings in this way is supposed to improve mood.

How does Dance and Movement Therapy work?

It is not known how dance and movement therapy might work. However, as well as the expression of feelings in movement, there might also be benefits from the physical exercise, from interacting with a group and from listening to music.

Is Dance and Movement Therapy effective?

Only one study has looked at the effects of dance and movement therapy on depressed people. This study found that some depressed people had improved mood on days when they had the therapy compared to days when they did not. However, long-term effects on depression were not studied.

Are there any disadvantages to Dance and Movement Therapy?

Provided a person has no physical health problem that prevents dancing, none are known.

Where do you get Dance and Movement Therapy?

Dance and movement therapy is usually led by a dance therapist. However, there are plenty of opportunities for dancing alone or in a group, even without a therapist. There are also books on the practice of dance and movement therapy available in most bookshops or over the internet.

Recommendation

Although there is evidence that physical exercise helps depression, dance and movement therapy has not been properly researched.


 


Key references

Stewart NJ, McMullen LM, Rubin LD. Movement therapy with depressed inpatients: a randomized multiple single case design. Archives of Psychiatric Nursing 1994; 8: 22-29.

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Last Updated: July 11, 2016

How To Recognize Depression Symptoms

Warning signs, or symptoms of depression include, sad or empty mood, feelings of worthlessness, feelings of hopelessness, decreased energy. Read more.In the briefest possible terms, here are the warning signs, or symptoms, of depression. If you, or someone you know, exhibits 5 or more of these signs, for more than 2 weeks, then you, or he or she, needs to get help.

Symptoms of Depression

  • Persistent sad, anxious, numb, or "empty" mood
  • Feelings of worthlessness, helplessness, guilt
  • Feelings of hopelessness, pessimism
  • Loss of interest or pleasure in hobbies and activities that you once enjoyed
  • Insomnia, early-morning awakening, or oversleeping
  • Decreased energy, fatigue, being "slowed down" or feeling sluggish
  • Increased appetite with weight gain, or decreased appetite with weight loss
  • Thoughts of self-injury, or attempting to injure yourself
  • Thoughts of death or suicide, suicide attempts
  • Restlessness, irritability, nervousness
  • Difficulty concentrating, remembering things, or making decisions
  • Persistent physical symptoms that do not respond to treatment, such as headaches, backaches, etc.

Keep in mind that these are only possible signs of depression. They don't necessarily mean you are suffering from depression. There are some physical illnesses which can bring on some of these, and there are some drugs which can produce similar side-effects. This is why it is very important to get help. If you do, in fact, have clinical depression, you can get treatment; and if that is not what's wrong with you, then obviously there is something else, which needs attention.

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Last Updated: June 20, 2016

Intervention for Pathological and Deviant Behavior Within an On-Line Community

Research into effective techniques for the treatment of Internet addiction.

by Dr. Kimberly Young (University of Pittsburgh, Bradford) and Dr. John Suler (Rider University)

Abstract

Treatment for Internet addiction is limited as this is a relatively new and often unrecognized affliction. Individuals complain that they have been unsuccessful in finding knowledgeable professionals or support groups specializing in Internet addiction recovery. Given these limitations, an experimental on-line consultation service was developed for pathological and deviant behavior among Internet users. The primary goals of the service were to serve as an informational resource, to provide immediate access to knowledgeable professionals, to administer brief, focused interventions designed to control and moderate Internet use, and to assist in seeking further treatment when required. This paper will review various on-line interventions and discuss the efficacy and limitations of an on-line consultation for this client population.

Introduction

The Internet has been touted as a revolutionary technology among politicians, academicians, and businessmen. However, among a small but growing body of research, the term addiction has extended into the psychiatric lexicon that identifies problematic Internet use associated with significant social, psychological, and occupational impairment (Brenner, 1996; Egger, 1996; Griffiths, 1997; Loytsker & Aiello, 1997; Morahan-Martin, 1997; Thompson, 1996; Scherer, 1997; Young, 1996a; 1996b; 1997a; 1997b;1998).

This research has primarily focused on assessment and evaluation of the extent of the addictive use of the Internet. Of all the diagnoses referenced in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders - Fourth Edition (DSM-IV; American Psychiatric Association, 1995), Young (1996a) viewed Pathological Gambling as most akin to the pathological nature of Internet use and defined this as an impulse-control disorder which does not involve an intoxicant. An eight-item questionnaire which modified criteria for pathological gambling was developed to serve as a screening instrument to classify subjects as "dependent" or "non-dependent" users (See Appendix 1). It should be noted that while this scale provides a workable measure of Internet addiction, further study is needed to determine its construct validity and clinical utility. Survey results documented 396 case studies who experienced significant job, family, academic and financial problems subsequent to heavy patterns of chat room, newsgroup, and Multi-User Dungeon (i.e., on-line games) use.

Subsequent research on compulsive Internet use which used on-line survey methods showed that self proclaimed "addicted" users often looked forward their next net session, felt nervous when off-line, lied about their on-line use, easily lost track of time, and felt the Internet caused problems in their jobs, finances, and socially (e.g., Brenner, 1996; Egger, 1996; Thompson, 1996). Two campus-wide surveys conducted at the University of Texas at Austin (Scherer, 1997) and Bryant College (Morahan-Martin, 1997) have further documented that pathological Internet use is problematic for academic performance and relationship functioning using independent criteria for assessment.

Despite the increased awareness that pathological Internet use is a legitimate concern, treatment programs that address Internet addiction are only slowly beginning to emerge. Individuals who suffer from this have frequently complained that they have been unsuccessful in finding knowledgeable professionals or support groups specializing in Internet addiction recovery as this is still a relatively new and often unrecognized affliction. Therefore, an experimental on-line consultation service was developed in order to address pathological and deviant behavior among Internet users. The primary goals of the service were to serve as an informational resource, to provide immediate access to knowledgeable professionals, to administer brief, focused interventions designed to control and moderate Internet use, and to assist in seeking further treatment when required.

Methods

Serving as subjects were individuals who responded to an experimental on-line consultation service established at the web site for The Center for On-Line Addiction. Participants seeking on-line consultation initially completed a general assessment instrument designed to evaluate information related to pathological Internet use. This assessment form existed on a secured server in an effort to protect confidential information electronically transmitted. The assessment form included questions related to the presenting problem, level of Internet usage, prior clinical history, and demographic information. The main issue or specific nature of the presenting problem such as onset, frequency, and severity was initially assessed. Level of Internet usage was determined by examining the number of hours spent on-line per week (for non-academic or job-related purposes), the length of time using the Internet, and types of applications utilized. Prior clinical history was evaluated by asking relevant questions about prior addiction or psychiatric illness (e.g., depression, bipolar disorder, attention deficit disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder). Completed forms were submitted directly to the principle investigator's electronic mailbox for a consult that were answered within 48 hours.




Findings and Discussion

Traditional abstinence models of addiction are not practical interventions as Internet use has several academic and professional benefits. The focus of treatment should consist of moderation and controlled use (Young, in press). In this relatively new field, outcome studies are not yet available. However, based upon individual practitioners who have seen Internet addicted subjects and prior research findings with other addictions, several techniques to treat Internet addiction have been developed: (a) practice the opposite time in Internet use, (b) employ external stoppers, (c) set goals, (d) abstain from a particular application, (e) use reminder cards, (f) develop a personal inventory, and (g) enter individual therapy or a support group. The list is not comprehensive, but address the major interventions utilized within the experimental on-line consultation service.

The first three interventions presented are simple time management techniques. However, more aggressive intervention is required when time management alone will not correct pathological Internet use (Young, in press). In these cases, the focus of treatment should be to assist the subject in developing effective coping strategies in order to change the addictive behavior through personal empowerment and proper support systems. If the subject finds positive ways of coping, then reliance upon the Internet to weather frustrations should no longer be necessary. However, keep in mind that in the early days of recovery, the subject will most likely experience a loss and miss being on-line for frequent periods of time. This is normal and should be expected. After all, for most subjects who derive a great source of pleasure from the Internet, living without it being a central part of one's life can be a very difficult adjustment.

Practice the Opposite

A reorganization of how one's time is managed is a major element in the treatment of the Internet addict. Therefore, the clinician should take a few minutes with the subject to consider current habits of using the Internet. The clinician should ask the subject, (a) What days of the week do you typically log on-line? (b) What time of day do you usually begin? (c) How long do you stay on during a typical session? and (d) Where do you usually use the computer? Once the clinician has evaluated the specific nature of the subject's Internet use, it is necessary to construct a new schedule with the client.

Young (1998) refers to this as practicing the opposite. The goal of this exercise is to have subjects disrupt their normal routine and readapt new time patterns of use in an effort to break the on-line habit. For example, let's say the subject's Internet habit involves checking E-mail the first thing in the morning. Suggest that the subject take a shower or start breakfast first instead of logging on. Or, perhaps the subject only uses the Internet at night, and has an established pattern of coming home and sitting in front of the computer for the remainder of the evening. The clinician might suggest to the subject to wait until after dinner and the news before logging on. If he uses it every weeknight, have him wait until the weekend, or if she is an all-weekend user, have her shift to just weekdays. If the subject never takes breaks, tell him or her to take one each half hour. If the subject only uses the computer in the den, have him or her move it to the bedroom.

This approach worked for Blaine, a forty eight-year-old school administrator, whose main problem had been staying on-line so long in the morning he would arrive hours late for work. Now he skips his morning on-line session and waits until evening to log on. "It was hard to change at first, almost like giving up my coffee in the morning," he relates. "But after a few days of struggling not to turn on the computer in the morning, I managed to get the hang of it. Now that I wait until evening to read my e-mail form friends, I get to work on time."

External Stoppers

Chris is an eighteen year old who discovered inter-rely chat when he received his Internet account at college. In high school, he was a straight "A" student, but his first semester grade point average was 1.8 due to his 60 hour a week on-line habit. He wrote, "I don't know what to do. I get so lost when on-line, that I forget how long I have been on. How can I control my time?" Unlike television, the Internet doesn't have commercial breaks (Young, 1998). Therefore, it is often useful to use concrete things that the subject needs to do or places to go as prompters to help log off. If the subject has to leave for work at 7:30 am, have him or her log in at 6:30, leaving exactly one hour before its time to quit. The danger in this is the subject may ignore such natural alarms. If so, a real alarm clock or egg timer may help. Determine a time that the subject will end the Internet session and preset the alarm and tell the subject to keep it near the computer. When it sounds, it is time to log off. In Chris's case, the application of external stoppers helped him to reduce his 12 hour on-line sessions to 4 hours, which left ample time for completion of assignments and homework for school.




Setting Goals

Many attempts to limit Internet usage fail because the user relies on an ambiguous plan to trim the hours without determining when those remaining on-line slots will come (Young, 1998). In order to avoid relapse, structured sessions should be programmed for the subject by setting reasonable goals, perhaps 20 hours instead of a current 40. Then, schedule those twenty hours in specific time slots and write them onto a calendar or weekly planner. The subject should keep the Internet sessions brief but frequent. This will help avoid cravings and withdrawal. As an example of a 20-hour schedule, the subject might plan to use the Internet from 8 to 10 p.m. every weeknight, and 1 to 6 on Saturday and Sunday. Or a new 10-hour schedule might include two weeknight sessions from 8:00 - 11:00 p.m., and an 8:30 am - 12:30 p.m. treat on Saturday. Incorporating a tangible schedule of Internet usage will give the subject a sense of being in control, rather than allowing the Internet to take control (Young, 1998).

Bill was a busy corporate marketing executive who found himself spending every evening on-line, and ignoring his wife and two children. He belonged to over 50 newsgroups and read through over 250 E-mails per day. Bill had no significant clinical history, but found himself immersed with newsgroups. He lamented, "My wife complains constantly and my children are always angry with me because I prefer the computer to spending time with them." Bill was very receptive to goal setting and planned his on-line sessions every week. He limited the number of newsgroups from 50 to 25, choosing only the most salient ones. He implemented a specific, time-limited schedule coupled with external stoppers such as an alarm clock to control his on-line habit and make time for his family.

Abstinence

Young (1996a) suggested that a particular application such as chat rooms, interactive games, newsgroups, or the World Wide Web may be the most problematic for the subject. If a specific application has been identified and moderation of it has failed, then abstinence from that application may be the next appropriate intervention. The subject must stop all activity surrounding that application. This does not mean that subjects can not engage in other applications which they find to be less appealing or those with a legitimate use. A subject who finds chat rooms addictive, may need to abstain from them. However, this same subject may use e-mail or surf the World Wide Web to make airline reservations or shop for a new car. Another example may be a subject who finds the World Wide Web addictive and may need to abstain from it. However, this same subject may be able to scan newsgroups related to topics of interest about politics, religion, or current events.

Abstinence is most applicable for the subject who also has a history of a prior addiction such as alcoholism or drug use. Marcia is a 39 year old controller for a major corporation. She had a ten year problem with alcoholism before she entered a local AA support group. While in her first year of recovery, she began to use the Internet to help with her home finances. Initially, Marcia spent a total of 15 hours per week using electronic mail and finding potential stock information on the World-Wide-Web. Until she discovered chat rooms, then her on-line time jumped dramatically to an estimated 60 to 70 hours per week as she chatted and routinely engaged in cybersex. As soon as she came home from work, Marcia rushed to her computer and stayed there the rest of evening. Marcia often forgot to eat dinner, called in sick to work to spend the day on-line, and took caffeine bills to help keep her alert and awake to indulge in her Internet habit. Her on-line habit had impaired her sleep patterns, health, job performance, and familial relationships. Marcia explained, "I have an addictive personality and do everything to excess, but at least being addicted to the Internet is better than being an alcoholic. I fear if I gave up the Internet I would begin drinking again." In this case, chat rooms were the trigger for Marcia's compulsive behavior. The focus of treatment for Marcia included abstinence from chat rooms with the continuance of using the Internet for productive purposes.

Subjects with a premorbid history of alcohol or drug addiction often find the Internet a physically "safe" substitute addiction as Marcia's case illustrates. Therefore, the subject becomes obsessed with Internet use as a way to avoid relapse in drinking or drug use. However, while the subject justifies the Internet is a "safe" addiction, he or she still avoids dealing with the compulsive personality or the unpleasant situation triggering the addictive behavior. In these cases, subjects may feel more comfortable working towards an abstinence goal as their prior recovery involved this model. Incorporating past strategies that have been successful for these subjects will enable them to effectively manage the Internet so that they can concentrate on their underlying problems.

Reminder Cards

Often subjects feel overwhelmed because, through errors in their thinking, they exaggerate their difficulties and minimize the possibility of corrective action (Young, 1998). To help the subject stay focused on the goal of either reduced use or abstinence from a particular application, have the subject make a list of the, (a) five major problems caused by addiction to the Internet, and (b) five major benefits for cutting down Internet use or abstaining from a particular application. Some problems might be listed such as lost time with one's spouse, arguments at home, problems at work, or poor grades. Some benefits might be, spending more time with one's spouse, more time to see real life friends, no more arguments at home, improved productivity at work, or improved grades.




Next, have the subject transfer the two lists onto a 3x5 index card and have the subject keep it in a pants or coat pocket, purse, or wallet. Instruct subjects to take out the index card as a reminder of what they want to avoid and what they want to do for themselves when they hit a choice point when they would be tempted to use the Internet instead of doing something more productive or healthy. Have subjects take the index card out several times a week to reflect on the problems caused by their Internet overuse and the benefits obtained by controlling their use as a means to increase their motivation at moments of decision compelling on-line use. Reassure subjects that it is well worth it to make their decision list as broad and all-encompassing as possible, and to be as honest as possible. This kind of clear-minded assessment of consequences is a valuable skill to learn, one that subjects will need later, after they have cut down or quite the Internet, for relapse prevention.

Marcia, who we discussed earlier, utilized a reminder card to help abstain from chat rooms. She attached the card to her computer to help fight her cravings. Her list of problems included: risked loss of job, hurting her mother and children who hardly spoke with, lost sleep, and an increase in catching viral infections. Her list of benefits included: improved work performance, better relationships with her family, increased sleep, and enhanced health.

Personal Inventory

Whether the subject is trying to cut down or abstain from a particular application, it is a good time to help the subject cultivate an alternative activity. The clinician should have the subject take a personal inventory of what he or she has cut down on, or cut out, because of the time spent on the Internet. Perhaps the subject is spending less time hiking, golfing, fishing, camping, or dating. Maybe they have stopped going to ball games or visiting the zoo, or volunteering at church. Perhaps it is an activity that the subject has always put off trying, like joining a fitness center or put off calling an old friend to arrange to have lunch. The clinician should instruct the subject to make a list of every activity or practice that has been neglected or curtailed since the on-line habit emerged. Now have the subject rank each one on the following scale: 1 - Very Important, 2 - Important, or 3 - Not Very Important. In rating this lost activity, have the subject genuinely reflect how life was before the Internet. In particular, examine the "Very Important" ranked activities. Ask the subject how these activities improved the quality of his or her life. This exercise will help the subject become more aware of the choices he or she has made regarding the Internet and rekindle lost activities once enjoyed. This technique was utilized with most of the on-line subjects and appeared particularly helpful for those who felt euphoric when engaged in on-line activity by cultivating pleasant feelings about real life activities and reduced their need to find emotional fulfillment on-line.

Individual Therapy and Support Groups

Obviously, the limited availability of support groups or specialists in Internet addiction recovery is the major impetus for seeking on-line consultation. It is important to also keep in mind that in many cases, on-line consultation is not intended to face-to-face therapy and further treatment is recommended. Therefore, a large part of the on-line service is to assist subjects in locating drug and alcohol rehabilitation centers, 12 Step recovery programs, or therapists who offer recovery support groups that will include those addicted to the Internet. This outlet will be especially useful for the Internet addict who has turned to the Internet in order to overcome feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem. Further treatment, especially recovery groups, will address the maladaptive cognitions leading to such feelings and provide an opportunity to build real life relationships that will release their social inhibitions and need for Internet companionship. Lastly, these groups may help the Internet addict to find real life support to cope with difficult transitions during recovery akin to AA sponsors.

Some subjects may be driven towards addictive use of the Internet due to a lack of real life social support. Young (1997b) found that on-line social support greatly contributed to addictive behaviors among those who lived lonely lifestyles such as homemakers, singles, the disabled, or the retired. This study found that these individuals spent long periods of time home alone turning to interactive on-line applications such as chat rooms as a substitute for the lack of real life social support. Furthermore, subjects who recently experienced situations such as a death of a loved one, a divorce, or a job loss may respond to the Internet as a mental distraction from their real life problems (Young, 1997b). Their absorption in the on-line world temporarily makes such problems fade into the background. If the on-line assessment uncovers the presence of such maladaptive or unpleasant situations, treatment should focus on improving the subject's real life social support network.

The clinician should help the client find an appropriate support group that best addresses his or her situation. Support groups tailored to the subject's particular life situation will enhance the subject's ability to make friends who are in a similar situation and decrease their dependence upon on-line cohorts. If a subject leads one of the above mentioned "lonely lifestyles" then perhaps the subject may join a local interpersonal growth group, a singles group, ceramics class, a bowling league, or church group to help meet new people. If another subject is recently widowed, then a bereavement support group may be best. If another subject is recently divorced, then a divorcees support group may be best. Once these individuals have found real life relationships they may rely less upon the Internet for the comfort and understanding missing in their real lives.




Summary

On-line consultation may be beneficial in the provision of prevention, education, and short-term intervention for pathological Internet use. However, as these cases are based on limited and experimental data, additional research is necessary to explore the exact utility of such an on-line consultation service. The systematic comparison between E-mail, chat room dialogue, and in vivo interventions within an on-line community should be considered. Its utility as an adjunct to face-to-face therapy should also be assessed. Finally, on-line interventions with any patient population holds significant ethical and therapeutic limitations that need to be considered.

While there may be promise for on-line consultation services, many will question its utility for those addicted to the Internet. The common argument is "Isn't it like holding an AA meeting at a bar." It is important to keep in mind that Internet addicts and their families often complain that they have been unsuccessful in finding local treatment programs, support groups, or individual therapists who are familiar with this problem. Since this is a relatively new and unrecognized affliction, many therapists minimize the impact the Internet has on an individual and therefore do not address this issue as part of the treatment. Therefore, an on-line service provides access to knowledgeable professionals available independent of geographic limitations. Additionally, on-line interventions are not intended to reinforce habitual use, but rather focus on moderated and controlled Internet use.

With the rapid expansion of the Internet into previously remote markets and another estimated 11.7 million planning to go on-line in the next year (IntelliQuest, 1997), the Internet may pose a potential clinical threat little is understood about the treatment implications for this emergent familial and societal problem. Future research may address specific interventions and conduct outcome studies for effective treatment management. Finally, future research should focus on the prevalence, incidence, and the role of this type of behavior in other established addictions (e.g., substance dependencies or pathological gambling) or psychiatric disorders (e.g., depression, bipolar disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder).

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The Self-Deprecating Narcissist

I have a riotous, subtle, ironic, and sharpened sense of humour. I can be self-deprecating and self-effacing. I do not recoil from making my dilapidated ego the target of my own barbs. Yet, this is true only when I have narcissistic supply aplenty. Narcissistic supply - attention, adulation, admiration, applause, fame, celebrity, notoriety - neuter the sting of my self-directed jokes. In my more humorous moments I can present myself as the opposite of what is widely known to be true. I can unfold a tale of fatuous decisions followed by clumsy misbehaviour - yet, no one would take me to be fatuous or clumsy. It is as though my reputation protects me from the brunt of my own jocular modesty. I can afford to be magnanimously forgiving of my own shortcomings because they are so outweighed by my gifts and by my widely known achievements or traits.

Still, the gist of what I once wrote stands:

"A narcissist rarely engages in self-directed, self-deprecating humour. If he does, he expects to be contradicted, rebuked and rebuffed by his listeners ("Come on, you are actually quite handsome!"), or to be commended or admired for his courage or for his wit and intellectual acerbity ("I envy your ability to laugh at yourself!"). As everything else in a narcissist's life, his sense of humour is deployed in the interminable pursuit of Narcissistic Supply."

I am completely different when I lack narcissistic supply or when in search of sources of such supply. Humour is always an integral part of my charm offensive. But, when narcissistic supply is deficient, it is never self-directed. Moreover, when deprived of supply, I react with hurt and rage when I am the butt of jokes and humorous utterances. I counter-attack ferociously and make a complete arse of myself.

Why these extremes?

"The absence of Narcissistic Supply (or the impending threat of such an absence) is, indeed, a serious matter. It is the narcissistic equivalent of mental death. If prolonged and unmitigated, such absence can lead to the real thing: physical death, a result of suicide, or of a psychosomatic deterioration of the narcissist's health. Yet, to obtain Narcissistic Supply, one must be taken seriously and to be taken seriously one must be the first to take oneself seriously. Hence the gravity with which the narcissist contemplates his life. This lack of levity and of perspective and proportion characterise the narcissist and set him apart.

The narcissist firmly believes that he is unique and that he is thus endowed because he has a mission to fulfill, a destiny, a meaning to his life. The narcissist's life is a part of history, of a cosmic plot and it constantly tends to thicken. Such a life deserves only the most serious attention. Moreover, every particle of such an existence, every action or inaction, every utterance, creation, or composition, indeed every thought, are bathed in this cosmic meaningfulness. They all lead down the paths of glory, of achievement, of perfection, of ideals, of brilliance. They are all part of a design, a pattern, a plot, which inexorably and unstoppably lead the narcissist on to the fulfillment of his task. The narcissist may subscribe to a religion, to a belief, or to an ideology in his effort to understand the source of this strong feeling of uniqueness. He may attribute his sense of direction to God, to history, to society, to culture, to a calling, to his profession, to a value system. But he always does so with a straight face, with a firm conviction and with deadly seriousness.

And because, to the narcissist, the part is a holographic reflection of the whole - he tends to generalise, to resort to stereotypes, to induct (to learn about the whole from the detail), to exaggerate, finally to pathologically lie to himself and to others. This tendency of his, this self-importance, this belief in a grand design, in an all embracing and all-pervasive pattern - make him an easy prey to all manner of logical fallacies and con artistry. Despite his avowed and proudly expressed rationality the narcissist is besieged by superstition and prejudice. Above all, he is a captive of the false belief that his uniqueness destines him to carry a mission of cosmic significance.


All these make the narcissist a volatile person. Not merely mercurial - but fluctuating, histrionic, unreliable, and disproportional. That which has cosmic implications calls for cosmic reactions. The person with an inflated sense of self-import, will react in an inflated manner to threats, greatly inflated by his imagination and by the application to them of his personal myth. On a cosmic scale, the daily vagaries of life, the mundane, the routine are not important, even damagingly distracting. This is the source of his feelings of exceptional entitlement. Surely, engaged as he is in securing the well being of humanity by the exercise of his unique faculties - the narcissist deserves special treatment! This is the source of his violent swings between opposite behaviour patterns and between devaluation and idealisation of others. To the narcissist, every minor development is nothing less than a new stage in his life, every adversity, a conspiracy to upset his progress, every setback an apocalyptic calamity, every irritation the cause for outlandish outbursts of rage. He is a man of the extremes and only of the extremes. He may learn to efficiently suppress or hide his feelings or reactions - but never for long. In the most inappropriate and inopportune moment, you can count on the narcissist to explode, like a wrongly wound time bomb. And in between eruptions, the narcissistic volcano daydreams, indulges in delusions, plans his victories over an increasingly hostile and alienated environment. Gradually, the narcissist becomes more paranoid - or more aloof, detached and dissociative.

In such a setting, you must admit, there is not much room for a sense of humour."


 

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Vaknin, S. (2008, December 18). The Self-Deprecating Narcissist, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, May 17 from https://www.healthyplace.com/personality-disorders/malignant-self-love/the-self-deprecating-narcissist

Last Updated: July 2, 2018

Conspicuous Existence

The narcissist is a shell. Uncertain of his own reality, he engages in "conspicuous existence".

"Conspicuous existence" is a form of "conspicuous consumption", in which the consumed commodity is narcissistic supply. The narcissist elaborately stage manages his very being. His every movement, his tone of voice, his inflection, his poise, his text and subtext and context are carefully orchestrated to yield the maximum effect and to garner the most attention.

Narcissists appear to be unpleasantly deliberate. They are somehow "wrong", like automata gone awry. They are too human, or too inhuman, or too modest, or too haughty, or too loving, or too cold, or too empathic, or too stony, or too industrious, or too casual, or too enthusiastic, or too indifferent, or too courteous, or too abrasive.

They are excess embodied. They act their part and their acting shows. Their show invariably unravels at the seams under the slightest stress. Their enthusiasm is always manic, their emotional expression unnatural, their body language defies their statements, their statements belie their intentions, their intentions are focused on the one and only drug - securing narcissistic supply from other people.

The narcissist authors his life and scripts it. To him, time is the medium upon which he, the narcissist, records the narrative of his recherché biography. He is, therefore, always calculated, as though listening to an inner voice, to a "director", or a "choreographer" of his unfolding history. His speech is tumid. His motion stunted. His emotional palette, a mockery of true countenances.

But the narcissist's constant invention of his self is not limited to outward appearances.

The narcissist does nothing and says nothing - or even thinks nothing - without first having computed the quantity of narcissistic supply his actions, utterances, or thoughts may yield. The visible narcissist is the tip of a gigantic, submerged, iceberg of seething reckoning. The narcissist is incessantly engaged in energy draining gauging of other people and their possible reactions to him. He estimates, he counts, he weighs and measures, he determines, evaluates, and enumerates, compares, despairs, and re-awakens. His fatigued brain is bathed with the drowning noise of stratagems and fears, rage and envy, anxiety and relief, addiction and rebellion, meditation and pre-meditation. The narcissist is a machine which never rests, not even in his dreams, and it has one purpose only - the securing and maximization of narcissistic supply.

Small wonder the narcissist is tired. His exhaustion is all-pervasive and all-consuming. His mental energy depleted, the narcissist can hardly empathize with others, love, or experience emotions. "Conspicuous Existence" malignantly replaces "real existence". The myriad, ambivalent, forms of life are supplanted by the single obsession-compulsion of being seen, being observed, being reflected, being by proxy, through the gaze of others. The narcissist ceases to exist when not in company. His being fades when not discerned. Yet, he is unable to return the favour. He is a captive, oblivious to everything but his preoccupation. Emptied from within, devoured by his urge, the narcissist blindly stumbles from one relationship to another, from one warm body to the next, forever in search of that elusive creature - himself.

 


 

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Last Updated: July 2, 2018

It is My World

"The new narcissist is haunted not by guilt but by anxiety. He seeks not to inflict his own certainties on others but to find a meaning in life. Liberated from the superstitions of the past, he doubts even the reality of his own existence. Superficially relaxed and tolerant, he finds little use for dogmas of racial and ethnic purity but at the same time forfeits the security of group loyalties and regards everyone as a rival for the favours conferred by a paternalistic state. His sexual attitudes are permissive rather than puritanical, even though his emancipation from ancient taboos brings him no sexual peace. Fiercely competitive in his demand for approval and acclaim, he distrusts competition because he associates it unconsciously with an unbridled urge to destroy. Hence he repudiates the competitive ideologies that flourished at an earlier stage of capitalist development and distrusts even their limited expression in sports and games. He extols cooperation and teamwork while harbouring deeply antisocial impulses. He praises respect for rules and regulations in the secret belief that they do not apply to himself. Acquisitive in the sense that his cravings have no limits, he does not accumulate goods and provisions against the future, in the manner of the acquisitive individualist of nineteenth-century political economy, but demands immediate gratification and lives in a state of restless, perpetually unsatisfied desire."

(Christopher Lasch - The Culture of Narcissism: American Life in an age of Diminishing Expectations, 1979)

"A characteristic of our times is the predominance, even in groups traditionally selective, of the mass and the vulgar. Thus, in intellectual life, which of its essence requires and presupposes qualification, one can note the progressive triumph of the pseudo-intellectual, unqualified, unqualifiable..."

(Jose Ortega y Gasset - The Revolt of the Masses, 1932)

Look around you. Self absorption. Greed. Frivolity. Social anxiety. Lack of empathy. Exploitation. Abuse. These are not marginal phenomena. These are the defining traits of the West and its denizens. The West's is a narcissistic civilization. It upholds narcissistic values and penalizes the alternative value-systems. From an early age, children are taught to avoid self-criticism, to deceive themselves regarding their capacities and achievements, to feel entitled, to exploit others. Litigiousness is the flip side of this inane sense of entitlement. The disintegration of the very fabric of society is its outcome. It is a culture of self-delusion. People adopt grandiose fantasies, often incommensurate with their real, dreary, lives. Consumerism is built on this common and communal lie of "I can do anything I want and possess everything I desire if I only apply myself to it".

There is one incriminating piece of evidence - the incidence of NPD among men and women.

There is no proof that NPD is a genetic disorder or has genetic roots. There is overwhelming evidence that it is the sad outcome of faulty upbringing. Still, if NPD is not related to cultural and social contexts, then it should occur equally among men and women. It doesn't.

It occurs three times more among men than it does among women.

This seems to be because the Narcissistic Personality Disorder (as opposed, for instance, to the Borderline or the Histrionic Personality Disorders, which afflict women more than men) seems to conform to masculine social mores and to the prevailing ethos of capitalism.

Ambition, achievements, hierarchy, ruthlessness, drive - are both social values and narcissistic male traits. Social thinkers like Lasch speculated that modern American culture - a narcissistic, self-centred one - increases the rate of incidence of the Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

To this Kernberg answered, rightly:

"The most I would be willing to say is that society can make serious psychological abnormalities, which already exist in some percentage of the population, seem to be at least superficially appropriate."

From my "Gender and the Narcissist"

"In the manifestation of their narcissism, female and male narcissists, inevitably, do tend to differ. They emphasise different things. They transform different elements of their personality and of their life into the cornerstones of their disorder. They both conform to cultural stereotypes, gender roles, and social expectations.

Women, for instance, concentrate on their body (as they do in eating disorders: Anorexia Nervosa and Bulimia Nervosa). They flaunt and exploit their physical charms, their sexuality, their socially and culturally determined "femininity". In its extreme form this is known as HPD or the Histrionic Personality Disorder.

Many female narcissists secure their Narcissistic Supply through their more traditional gender roles: the home, children, suitable careers, their husbands ("the wife of..."), their feminine traits, their role in society, etc. It is no wonder than narcissists - both men and women - are chauvinistically conservative. They depend to such an extent on the opinions of people around them - that, with time, they are transformed into ultra-sensitive seismographs of public opinion, barometers of prevailing winds and guardians of conformity. Narcissists cannot afford to seriously alienate those who reflect to them their False Self. The very proper and on-going functioning of their Ego depends on the goodwill and the collaboration of their human environment.


 


Even the self destructive and self defeating behaviours of narcissists conform to traditional masculine and feminine roles.

Besieged and consumed by pernicious guilt feelings - many a narcissist seek to be punished. The self-destructive narcissist plays the role of the "bad guy" (or "bad girl"). But even then it is within the traditional socially allocated roles. To ensure social opprobrium (read: attention, i.e., narcissistic supply), the narcissist cartoonishly exaggerates these roles. A woman is likely to label herself a "whore" and a male narcissist to style himself a "vicious, unrepentant criminal". Yet, these again are traditional social roles. Men are likely to emphasise intellect, power, aggression, money, or social status. Women are likely to emphasise body, looks, charm, sexuality, feminine "traits", homemaking, children and childrearing - even as they seek their masochistic punishment.

There are mental disorders, which afflict a specific sex more often.

This has to do with hormonal or other physiological dispositions, with social and cultural conditioning through the socialisation process, and with role assignment through the gender differentiation process. None of these seem to be strongly correlated to the formation of malignant narcissism."

I belong. I am a narcissist. And you? You are deviants. You have mal-adapted to my brave new world. The world of the Narcissist.

 


 

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Last Updated: July 2, 2018

Love and Addiction - 3. A General Theory of Addiction

In: Peele, S., with Brodsky, A. (1975), Love and Addiction. New York: Taplinger.

© 1975 Stanton Peele and Archie Brodsky.
Reprinted with permission from Taplinger Publishing Co., Inc.

I hate its weakness more than I like its pleasant futility. I hate it and myself in it all the time I'm dwelling on it. I hate it as I'd hate a little drug habit fastened on my nerves. Its influence is the same but more insidious than a drug would be, more demoralizing. As feeling fear makes one afraid, feeling more fear makes one more afraid.
—MARY MacLANE, I, Mary MacLane: A Diary of Human Days

Stanton Peele's general theory of addiction.With our new model of addiction in mind, we need no longer think of addiction exclusively in terms of drugs. We are concerned with the larger question of why some people seek to close off their experience through a comforting, but artificial and self-consuming relationship with something external to themselves. In itself, the choice of object is irrelevant to this universal process of becoming dependent. Anything that people use to release their consciousness can be addictively misused.

As a starting point for our analysis, however, addictive drug use serves as a convenient illustration of the psychological whys and hows of addiction. Since people usually think of drug dependencies in terms of addiction, who becomes addicted and why is best understood in that area, and psychologists have come up with some fairly good answers to these questions. But once we take account of their work and its implications for a general theory of addiction, we must move beyond drugs. It is necessary to transcend the culture-bound, class-bound definition that has enabled us to dismiss addiction as somebody else's problem. With a new definition, we can look directly at our own addictions.

Personality Characteristics of Addicts

The first researcher to take a serious interest in the personalities of addicts was Lawrence Kolb, whose studies of opiate addicts at the U.S. Public Health Service in the 1920s are collected in a volume entitled Drug Addiction: A Medical Problem. Discovering that the psychological problems of addicts existed prior to addiction, Kolb concluded, "The neurotic and the psychopath receive from narcotics a pleasurable sense of relief from the realities of life that normal persons do not receive because life is no special burden to them." At the time, Kolb's work offered a note of reason amidst the hysteria about the personal deterioration that the opiates in themselves supposedly caused. Since then, however, Kolb's approach has been criticized as being too negative toward drug users and ignoring the range of motivations that contribute to drug use. If drug users per se are what we are concerned with, then the criticism of Kolb is well-taken, for we know now that there are many varieties of drug users besides those with "addictive personalities." But in its having pinpointed a personality orientation that often reveals itself in self-destructive drug use, as well a-s in many other unhealthy things that people do, Kolb's insight remains sound.

Later personality studies of drug users have expanded upon Kolb's discoveries. In their study of reactions to a morphine placebo among hospital patients, Lasagna and his colleagues found that patients who accepted the placebo as a pain-killer, as compared with those who did not, were also more likely to be satisfied with the effects of morphine itself. It seems that certain people, as well as being more suggestible about an innocuous injection, are more vulnerable to the actual effects of a potent analgesic like morphine. What characteristics distinguish this group of people? From interviews and Rorschach tests, some generalizations emerged about the placebo reactors. They all considered hospital care "wonderful," were more cooperative with the staff, were more active churchgoers, and used conventional household drugs more than the nonreactors. They were more anxious and more emotionally volatile, had less control over the expression of their instinctual needs, and were more dependent on outside stimulation than on their own mental processes, which were not as mature as those of nonreactors.

These traits yield a distinct picture of the people who respond most strongly to narcotics (or placebos) in hospitals as being pliable, trusting, unsure of themselves, and ready to believe that a drug given them by a doctor must be beneficial. Can we draw a parallel between these people and street addicts? Charles Winick gives the following explanation for the fact that many addicts become addicted in adolescence, only to "mature out" when they become older and more stable:

. . . they [the addicts] began taking heroin in their late teens or early twenties as their method of coping with the challenges and problems of early adulthood.... The use of narcotics may make it possible for the user to evade, mask, or postpone the expression of these needs and these decisions [i.e., sex, aggression, vocation, financial independence and support of others].... On a less conscious level, he may be anticipating becoming dependent on jails and other community resources. . . . Becoming a narcotics addict in early adulthood thus enables the addict to avoid many decisions....

Here again, we see that lack of self-assurance and related dependency needs determine the pattern of addiction. When the addict arrives at some resolution of his problems (whether by permanently accepting some other dependent social role or by finally gathering the emotional resources to attain maturity), his addiction to heroin ceases. It no longer serves a function in his life. Stressing the importance of fatalistic beliefs in the addiction process, Winick concludes that addicts who fail to mature out are those "who decide that they are 'hooked,' make no effort to abandon addiction, and give in to what they regard as inevitable."

In their portrait of the day-to-day existence of the street heroin user in The Road to H. Chein and his colleagues emphasize the addict's need to compensate for his lack of more substantial outlets. As Chein puts it in a later article:

From almost his earliest days, the addict has been systematically educated and trained into incompetence. Unlike others, therefore, he could not find a vocation, a career, a meaningful, sustained activity around which he could, so to say, wrap his life. The addiction, however, offers an answer to even this problem of emptiness. The life of an addict constitutes a vocation—hustling, raising funds, assuring a connection and the maintenance of supply, outmaneuvering the police, performing the rituals of preparing and of taking the drug—a vocation around which the addict can build a reasonably full life.

Although Chein doesn't say so in quite these terms, the substitute way of life is what the street user is addicted to.


Exploring why the addict needs such a substitute life, the authors of The Road to H. describe the addict's constricted outlook and his defensive stance toward the world. Addicts are pessimistic about life and preoccupied with its negative and dangerous aspects. In the ghetto setting studied by Chein, they are emotionally detached from people, and are capable of seeing others only as objects to be exploited. They lack confidence in themselves and are not motivated toward positive activities except when pushed by someone in a position of authority. They are passive even as they are manipulative, and the need they feel most strongly is a need for predictable gratification. Chein's findings are consistent with Lasagna's and Winick's. Together, they show that the person predisposed to drug addiction has not resolved childhood conflicts about autonomy and dependence so as to develop a mature personality.

To understand what makes a person an addict, consider the controlled users, the people who do not become addicts even though they take the same powerful drugs. The doctors Winick studied are aided in keeping their use of narcotics under control by the relative ease with which they can obtain the drugs. A more important factor, however, is the purposefulness of their lives—the activities and goals to which drug use is subordinated. What enables most physicians who use narcotics to withstand dominance by a drug is simply the fact that they must regulate their drug-taking in line with its effect on the performance of their duties.

Even among people who do not have the social standing of doctors, the principle behind controlled use is the same. Norman Zinberg and Richard Jacobson unearthed many controlled users of heroin and other drugs among young people in a variety of settings. Zinberg and Jacobson suggest that the extent and diversity of a person's social relationships are crucial in determining whether the person will become a controlled or compulsive drug user. If a person is acquainted with others who do not use the drug in question, he is not likely to become totally immersed in that drug. These investigators also report that controlled use depends on whether the user has a specific routine which dictates when he will take the drug, so that there are only some situations where he will consider it appropriate and others—such as work or school—where he will rule it out. Again, the controlled user is distinguished from the addict by the way drugs fit into the overall context of his life.

Considering the research on controlled users in conjunction with that on addicts, we can infer that addiction is a pattern of drug use that occurs in people who have little to anchor them to life. Lacking an underlying direction, finding few things that can entertain or motivate them, they have nothing to compete with the effects of a narcotic for possession of their lives. But for other people the impact of a drug, while it may be considerable, is not overwhelming. They have involvements and satisfactions which forestall total submission to something whose action is to limit and deaden. The occasional user may have need for relief or may only use a drug for specific positive effects. But he values his activities, his friendships, his possibilities too much to sacrifice them to the exclusion and repetition which is addiction.

The absence of drug dependencies in people who have been exposed to narcotics under special conditions, such as hospital patients and the G.I.'s in Vietnam, has already been noted. These people use an opiate for solace or relief from some sort of temporary misery. In normal circumstances, they do not find life sufficiently unpleasant to want to obliterate their consciousness. As people with a normal range of motivations, they have other options—once they have been removed from the painful situation—which are more attractive than unconsciousness. Almost never do they experience the full symptoms of withdrawal or a craving for drugs.

In Addiction and Opiates, Alfred Lindesmith has noted that even when medical patients do experience some degree of withdrawal pain from morphine, they are able to protect themselves against prolonged craving by thinking of themselves as normal people with a temporary problem, rather than as addicts. Just as a culture can be influenced by a widespread belief in the existence of addiction, an individual who thinks of himself as an addict will more readily feel the addictive effects of a drug. Unlike the street addict, whose lifestyle they probably despise, medical patients and G.I.'s naturally assume that they are stronger than the drug. This belief enables them, in fact, to resist addiction. Reverse this, and we have the orientation of someone who is susceptible to addiction: he believes the drug is stronger than he is. In both cases, people's estimate of a drug's power over them reflects their estimate of their own essential strengths and weaknesses. Thus an addict believes that he can be overwhelmed by an experience at the same time he is driven to seek It out.

Who, then, is the addict? We can say that he or she is someone who lacks the desire—or confidence in his or her capacity—to come to grips with life independently. His view of life is not a positive one which anticipates chances for pleasure and fulfillment, but a negative one which fears the world and people as threats to himself. When this person is confronted with demands or problems, he seeks support from an external source which, since he feels it is stronger than he is, he believes can protect him. The addict is not a genuinely rebellious person. Rather, he is a fearful one. He is eager to rely on drugs (or medicines), on people, on institutions (like prisons and hospitals). In giving himself up to these larger forces, he is a perpetual invalid. Richard Blum has found that drug users have been trained at home, as children, to accept and exploit the sick role. This readiness for submission is the keynote of addiction. Disbelieving his own adequacy, recoiling from challenge, the addict welcomes control from outside himself as the ideal state of affairs.

A Social-Psychological Approach to Addiction

Working from this emphasis on subjective, personal experience, we can now attempt to define addiction. The definition we have been moving toward is a social-psychological one in that it focuses on a person's emotional states and his relationship to his surroundings. These must in turn be understood in terms of the impact which social institutions have had on the person's outlook. Instead of working with biological or even psychological absolutes, a social-psychological approach tries to make sense out of people's experience by asking what people are like, what in their thinking and feeling underlies their behavior, how they come to be as they are, and what pressures from their environment they currently face.


In these terms, then, an addiction exists when a person's attachment to a sensation, an object, or another person is such as to lessen his appreciation of and ability to deal with other things in his environment, or in himself, so that he has become increasingly dependent on that experience as his only source of gratification. A person will be predisposed to addiction to the extent that he cannot establish a meaningful relationship to his environment as a whole, and thus cannot develop a fully elaborated life. In this case, he will be susceptible to a mindless absorption in something external to himself, his susceptibility growing with each new exposure to the addictive object.

Our analysis of addiction starts with the addict's low opinion of himself and his lack of genuine involvement in life, and examines how this malaise progresses into the deepening spiral which is at the center of the psychology of addiction. The person who becomes an addict has not learned to accomplish things he can regard as worthwhile, or even simply to enjoy life. Feeling incapable of engaging himself in an activity that he finds meaningful, he naturally turns away from any opportunities to do so. His lack of self-respect causes this pessimism. A result, too, of the addict's low self-esteem is his belief that he cannot stand alone, that he must have outside support to survive. Thus his life assumes the shape of a series of dependencies, whether approved (such as family, school, or work) or disapproved (such as drugs, prisons, or mental institutions).

His is not a pleasant state of affairs. He is anxious in the face of a world he fears, and his feelings about himself are likewise unhappy. Yearning to escape from a distasteful consciousness of his life, and having no abiding purpose to check his desire for unconsciousness, the addict welcomes oblivion. He finds it in any experience that can temporarily erase his painful awareness of himself and his situation. The opiates and other strong depressant drugs accomplish this function directly by inducing an all-encompassing soothing sensation. Their pain-killing effect, the feeling they create that the user need do nothing more to set his life straight, makes the opiates prominent as objects of addiction. Chein quotes the addict who, after his first shot of heroin, became a regular user: "I got real sleepy. I went in to lay on the bed.... I thought, this is for me! And I never missed a day since, until now." Any experience in which a person can lose himself—if that is what he desires—can serve the same addictive function.

There is a paradoxical cost extracted, however, as fee for this relief from consciousness. In turning away from his world to the addictive object, which he values increasingly for its safe, predictable effects, the addict ceases to cope with that world. As he becomes more involved with the drug or other addictive experience, he becomes progressively less able to deal with the anxieties and uncertainties that drove him to it in the first place. He realizes this, and his having resorted to escape and intoxication only exacerbates his self-doubt. When a person does something in response to his anxiety that he doesn't respect (like getting drunk or overeating), his disgust with himself causes his anxiety to increase. As a result, and now also faced by a bleaker objective situation, he is even more needful of the reassurance the addictive experience offers him. This is the cycle of addiction. Eventually, the addict depends totally on the addiction for his gratifications in life, and nothing else can interest him. He has given up hope of managing his existence; forgetfulness is the one aim he is capable of pursuing wholeheartedly.

Withdrawal symptoms occur because a person cannot be deprived of his sole source of reassurance in the world—a world from which he has grown increasingly alienated—without considerable trauma. The problems he originally encountered are now magnified, and he has gotten used to the constant lulling of his awareness. At this point, dreading reexposure to the world above all else, he will do whatever he can to maintain his protected state. Here is the completion of the addiction process. Once again the addict's low self-esteem has come into play. It has made him feel helpless not only against the rest of the world, but against the addictive object as well, so that he now believes he can neither live without it nor free himself from its grasp. It is a natural end for a person who has been trained to be helpless all his life.

Interestingly, an argument which is used against psychological explanations for addiction can actually help us understand the psychology of addiction. It is often contended that because animals get addicted to morphine in laboratories, and because infants are born drug-dependent when their mothers have taken heroin regularly during pregnancy, there is no possibility that psychological factors can play a part in the process. But it is the very fact that infants and animals do not have the subtlety of interests or the full life that an adult human being ideally possesses which makes them so uniformly susceptible to addiction. When we think of the conditions under which animals and infants become addicted, we can better appreciate the situation of the addict. Aside from their relatively simple motivations, monkeys kept in a small cage with an injection apparatus strapped to their backs are deprived of the variety of stimulation their natural environment provides. All they can do is push the lever. Obviously, an infant is also not capable of sampling life's full complexity. Yet these physically or biologically limiting factors are not unlike the psychological constraints the addict lives with. Then, too, the "addicted" infant is separated at birth both from the womb and from a sensation—that of heroin in its bloodstream—which it associates with the womb and which in itself simulates womb-like comfort. The normal trauma of birth is made worse, and the infant recoils from its harsh exposure to the world. This infantile feeling of being deprived of some necessary sense of security is again something which has startling parallels in the adult addict.

Criteria for Addiction and Nonaddiction

Just as a person can be a compulsive or a controlled drug user, so there are addictive and nonaddictive ways of doing anything. When a person is strongly predisposed to be addicted, whatever he does can fit the psychological pattern of addiction. Unless he deals with his weaknesses, his major emotional involvements will be addictive, and his life will consist of a series of addictions. A passage from Lawrence Kubie's Neurotic Distortion of the Creative Process dramatically focuses on the way personality determines the quality of any kind of feeling or activity:

There is not a single thing which a human being can do or feel, or think, whether it is eating or sleeping or drinking or fighting or killing or hating or loving or grieving or exulting or working or playing or painting or inventing, which cannot be either sick or well.... The measure of health is flexibility, the freedom to learn through experience, the freedom to change with changing internal and external circumstances . . . the freedom to respond appropriately to the stimulus of reward and punishment, and especially the freedom to cease when sated.

If a person cannot cease after being sated, if he cannot be sated, he is addicted. Fear, and feelings of inadequacy, cause an addict to seek constancy of stimulation and setting rather than to chance the dangers of novel or unpredictable experience. Psychological security is what he wants above all. He searches for it outside himself, until he finds that the experience of addiction is completely predictable. At this point, satiation is impossible—because it is the sameness of sensation that he craves. As the addiction proceeds, novelty and change become things he is even less able to tolerate.


What are the key psychological dimensions of addiction, and of the freedom and growth which are the antitheses of addiction? A major theory in psychology is that of achievement motivation, as summarized by John Atkinson in An Introduction to Motivation. The motive to achieve refers to a person's positive desire to pursue a task, and to the satisfaction he gets from successfully completing it. Opposed to achievement motivation is what is called "fear of failure," an outlook which causes a person to react to challenges with anxiety rather than positive anticipation. This happens because the person does not see a new situation as an opportunity for exploration, satisfaction, or accomplishment. For him, it only holds out the threat of disgrace through the failure he believes is likely. A person with a high fear of failure avoids new things, is conservative, and seeks to reduce life to safe routines and rituals.

The fundamental distinction involved here—and in addiction—is the distinction between a desire to grow and experience and a desire to stagnate and remain untouched. Jozef Cohen quotes the addict who says, "The best high . . . is death." Where life is seen as a burden, full of unpleasant and useless struggles, addiction is a way to surrender. The difference between not being addicted and being addicted is the difference between seeing the world as your arena and seeing the world as your prison. These contrasting orientations suggest a standard for assessing whether a substance or activity is addictive for a particular person. If what a person is engaged in enhances his ability to live—if it enables him to work more effectively, to love more beautifully, to appreciate the things around him more, and finally, if it allows him to grow, to change, and expand—then it is not addictive. If, on the other hand, it diminishes him—if it makes him less attractive, less capable, less sensitive, and if it limits him, stifles him, harms him—then it is addictive.

These criteria do not mean that an involvement is necessarily addictive because it is intensely absorbing. When someone can truly engage himself in something, as opposed to seeking out its most general, superficial features, he is not addicted. Addiction is marked by an intensity of need, which only motivates a person to expose himself repeatedly to the grossest aspects of a sensation, primarily its intoxicating effects. Heroin addicts are most attached to the ritualistic elements in their use of the drug, such as the act of injecting heroin and the stereotyped relationships and hustling that go along with getting it, not to mention the deadening predictability of the action that narcotics have.

When someone enjoys or is energized by an experience, he wishes to pursue it further, master it more, understand it better. The addict, on the other hand, wishes only to stay with a clearly defined routine. This obviously does not have to be true for heroin addicts alone. When a man or woman works purely for the reassurance of knowing that he or she is working, rather than positively desiring to do something, then that person's involvement with work is compulsive, the so-called "workaholic" syndrome. Such a person is not concerned that the products of his labors, that all other concomitants and results of what he does, may be meaningless, or worse, harmful. In the same way, the heroin addict's life does include the discipline and challenge entailed in obtaining the drug. But he cannot maintain respect for these efforts in the face of society's judgment that they are nonconstructive and, worse, vicious. It is difficult for the addict to feel that he has done something of lasting value when he works feverishly to get high four times a day.

From this perspective, while we might be tempted to refer to the dedicated artist or scientist as being addicted to his or her work, the description doesn't fit. There may be elements of addiction in a person's throwing himself into solitary creative work when it is done out of an incapacity to have normal relationships with people, but great achievements often require a narrowing of focus. What distinguishes such concentration from addiction is that the artist or scientist is not escaping from novelty and uncertainty into a predictable, comforting state of affairs. He receives the pleasure of creation and discovery from his activity, a pleasure that is sometimes long deferred. He moves on to new problems, sharpens his skills, takes risks, meets resistance and frustration, and always challenges himself. To do otherwise means the end of his productive career. Whatever his personal incompleteness, his involvement in his work does not diminish his integrity and his capacity to live, and thus does not cause him to want to escape from himself. He is in touch with a difficult and demanding reality, and his accomplishments are open to the judgment of those who are similarly engaged, those who will decide his place in the history of his discipline. Finally, his work can be evaluated by the benefits or pleasures it brings to humanity as a whole.

Working, socializing, eating, drinking, praying—any regular part of a person's life can be evaluated in terms of how it contributes to, or detracts from, the quality of his experience. Or, looked at from the other direction, the nature of a person's general feelings about living will determine the character of any of his habitual involvements. As Marx noted, it is the attempt to separate a single involvement from the rest of one's life which allows for addiction:

It is nonsense to believe . . . one could satisfy one passion separated from all others without satisfying oneself, the whole living individual. If this passion assumes an abstract, separate character, if it confronts him as an alien power . . . the result is that this individual achieves only a one-sided, crippled development.
(quoted in Erich Fromm, "Marx's Contribution to the Knowledge of Man")

Yardsticks like this can be applied to any thing or any act; that is why many involvements besides those with drugs meet the criteria for addiction. Drugs, on the other hand, are not addictive when they serve to fulfill a larger purpose in life, even if the purpose is to increase self-awareness, to expand consciousness, or simply to enjoy oneself.

The ability to derive a positive pleasure from something, to do something because it brings joy to oneself, is, in fact, a principal criterion of nonaddiction. It might seem a foregone conclusion that people take drugs for enjoyment, yet this is not true of addicts. An addict does not find heroin pleasurable in itself. Rather, he uses it to obliterate other aspects of his environment which he dreads. A cigarette addict or an alcoholic may once have enjoyed a smoke or a drink, but by the time he has become addicted, he is driven to use the substance merely to maintain himself at a bearable level of existence. This is the tolerance process, through which the addict comes to rely on the addictive object as something necessary to his psychological survival. What might have been a positive motivation turns out to be a negative one. It is a matter of need rather than of desire.


A further, and related, sign of addiction is that an exclusive craving for something is accompanied by a loss of discrimination toward the object which satisfies the craving. In the early stages of an addict's relationship to a substance, he may desire a specific quality in the experience it gives him. He hopes for a certain reaction and, if it is not forthcoming, he is dissatisfied. But after a certain point, the addict cannot distinguish between a good or a bad version of that experience. All he cares about is that he wants it and that he gets it. The alcoholic is not interested in the taste of the liquor that is available; likewise, the compulsive eater is not particular about what he eats when there is food around. The difference between the heroin addict and the controlled user is the ability to discriminate among conditions for taking the drug. Zinberg and Jacobson found that the controlled drug user weighs a number of pragmatic considerations—how much the drug costs, how good the supply is, whether the assembled company is appealing, what else he might do with his time—before indulging on any given occasion. Such choices are not open to an addict.

Since it is only the repetition of the basic experience for which the addict yearns, he is unaware of variations in his environment—even in the addictive sensation itself—as long as certain key stimuli are always present. This phenomenon is observable in those who use heroin, LSD, marijuana, speed, or cocaine. While light, irregular, or novice users are very dependent on situational cues to set the mood for the enjoyment of their trips, the heavy user or the addict disregards these variables almost entirely. This, and all our criteria, are applicable to addicts in other areas of life, including love addicts.

Groups and the Private World

Addiction, since it avoids reality, amounts to the substitution of a private standard of meaning and value for publicly accepted standards. It is natural to bolster this alienated worldview by sharing it with others; in fact, it is often learned from others in the first place. Understanding the process by which groups coalesce around obsessive, exclusive activities and systems of belief is an important step in exploring how groups, including couples, can themselves comprise an addiction. By looking at the ways in which groups of addicts construct their own worlds, we gain essential insights into the social aspects of addiction, and—what directly follows from this—social addictions.

Howard Becker observed groups of marijuana users in the fifties showing new members how to smoke marijuana and how to interpret its effect. What they were also showing them was how to be part of the group. The initiates were teaching the experience which made the group distinctive—the marijuana high—and why this distinctive experience was pleasurable, and therefore good. The group was engaged in the process of defining itself, and of creating an internal set of values separate from those of the world at large. In this way, miniature societies are formed by people who share a set of values relating to something which they have in common, but which people generally do not accept. That something can be the use of a particular drug, a fanatical religious or political belief, or the pursuit of esoteric knowledge. The same thing happens when a discipline becomes so abstract that its human relevance is lost in the interchange of secrets among experts. There is no desire to influence the course of events outside of the group setting, except to draw new devotees into its boundaries. This happens regularly with such self-contained mental systems as chess, bridge, and horse-race handicapping. Activities like bridge are addictions for so many people because in them the elements of group ritual and private language, the bases of group addictions, are so strong.

To understand these separate worlds, consider a group organized around its members' involvement with a drug, such as heroin, or marijuana when it was a disapproved and deviant activity. The members agree that it is right to use the drug, both because of the way it makes one feel and because of the difficulty or unattractiveness of being a total participant in the regular world, i.e., of being a "straight." In the "hip" subculture of the drug user, this attitude constitutes a conscious ideology of superiority to the straight world. Such groups, like the hipsters Norman Mailer wrote about in "The White Negro," or the delinquent addicts that Chein studied, feel both disdain and fear toward the mainstream of society. When someone becomes a part of that group, accepting its distinct values and associating exclusively with the people in it, he becomes "in"—a part of that subculture—and cuts himself off from those outside it.

Addicts need to evolve their own societies because, having devoted themselves entirely to their shared addictions, they must turn to each other to gain approval for behavior that the larger society despises. Always fearful of and alienated by broader standards, these individuals can now be accepted in terms of internal group standards that they find easier to meet. At the same time, their alienation increases, so that they become more insecure in the face of the outside world's values. When they are exposed to these attitudes, they reject them as irrelevant, and return to their circumscribed existence with a strengthened allegiance. Thus, with the group as well as with the drug, the addict goes through a spiral of growing dependency.

The behavior of people who are under the influence of a drug is explicable only to those who are likewise intoxicated. Even in their own eyes, their behavior only makes sense when they are in that condition. After a person has been drunk, he may say, "I can't believe I did all that." In order to be able to accept his behavior, or to forget that he had appeared so foolish, he feels that he has to reenter the intoxicated state. This discontinuity between ordinary reality and the addicts' reality makes each the negation of the other. To participate in one is to reject the other. Thus, when someone quits a private world, the break is likely to be a sharp one, as when an alcoholic swears off drinking or seeing his old drinking friends ever again, or when political or religious extremists turn into violent opponents of the ideologies they once held.


Given this tension between the private world and what lies outside, the task which the group performs for its members is to bring about self-acceptance through the maintenance of a distorted but shared outlook. The other people who also participate in the group's peculiar vision, or in the intoxication it favors, can understand the addict's perspective where outsiders cannot. Someone else who is drunk is not critical of a drunk's behavior. Someone who begs or steals money to obtain heroin is not likely to criticize someone similarly occupied. Such groupings of addicts are not predicated on genuine human feelings and appreciation; the other group members in themselves are not the object of the addict's concern. Rather, his own addiction is his concern, and those other people who can tolerate it and even help him pursue it are simply adjuncts to his one preoccupation in life.

The same expediency in forming connections is there with the person addicted to a lover. It is there in the use of another person to shore up a beleaguered sense of self and to obtain acceptance when the rest of the world seems frightening and forbidding. The lovers gladly lose track of how insular their behavior becomes in the creation of their separate world, until such time as they may be forced to return to reality. But there is one respect in which the isolation of addicted lovers from the world is even more stark than that of other alienated groups of addicts. While drug users and ideologues support each other in maintaining some belief or behavior, the relationship is the sole value around which the private society of the interpersonal addict is organized. While drugs are the theme for groups of heroin addicts, the relationship is the theme for the lovers' group; the group itself is the object of the members' addiction. And thus the addicted love relationship is the tightest group of all. You are "in" with only one person at a time—or one person forever.

References

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Becker, Howard. Outsiders. London: Free Press of Glencoe, 1963.

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Chein, Isidor. "Psychological Functions of Drug Use." In Scientific Basis of Drug Dependence, edited by Hannah Steinberg, pp. 13-30. London: Churchill Ltd., 1969.

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Last Updated: June 28, 2016

FAQ: Effectiveness of Drug Addiction Treatment

3. How effective is drug addiction treatment?

Treatment of addiction is as successful as treatment of other chronic diseases such as diabetes, hypertension, and asthma.In addition to stopping drug use, the goal of treatment is to return the individual to productive functioning in the family, workplace, and community. Measures of effectiveness typically include levels of criminal behavior, family functioning, employability, and medical condition. Overall, treatment of drug addiction is as successful as treatment of other chronic diseases, such as diabetes, hypertension, and asthma.

Treatment of addiction is as successful as treatment of other chronic diseases such as diabetes, hypertension, and asthma.

According to several studies, drug treatment reduces drug abuse by 40 to 60 percent and significantly decreases criminal activity during and after treatment. For example, a study of therapeutic community treatment for drug offenders demonstrated that arrests for violent and nonviolent criminal acts were reduced by 40 percent or more. Methadone treatment has been shown to decrease criminal behavior by as much as 50 percent. Research shows that drug addiction treatment reduces the risk of HIV infection and that interventions to prevent HIV are much less costly than treating HIV-related illnesses. Treatment can improve the prospects for employment, with gains of up to 40 percent after treatment.

Although these effectiveness rates hold in general, individual drug treatment outcomes depend on the extent and nature of the patient's presenting problems, the appropriateness of the treatment components and related services used to address those problems, and the degree of active engagement of the patient in the treatment process.

Source: National Institute of Drug Abuse, "Principles of Drug Addiction Treatment: A Research Based Guide."

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Last Updated: June 25, 2016

Avoiding Sex Talk Opening Up To Sex

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Sex, the most fearful and fascinating, the most guilt ridden and ecstatic of arts, is a subject we do not discuss easily. Most of us have spent many years avoiding sex talk due to our shame, guilt, and fear programming. In order to share Sacred Sexuality, you must have the courage to communicate your innermost feelings, letting your partner know what you like and dislike. It is also important to realize that you, and no one else, is responsible for your own sexual satisfaction. You must have the courage to ask your partner for what you need in order to experience ecstasy.

Sexual Rapport

How can we have healthy sex talk in our relationship? We must build trust and intimacy by getting in rapport. Rapport is the non verbal aspect of sex talk that creates harmony and makes it comfortable for us to share our innermost feelings.

Matching your mate's breathing, body posture, movements, voice level and intensity, and primary communication system -- visual, auditory, or kinesthetic will help you get in rapport. It is the little things that communicate our love, from a gentle touch to a soul searching glance; a thoughtful gesture to a cozy snuggle. Charlie and I like to get in rapport by holding each other while we are lying down, spoon fashion. As we lie quietly together, we synchronize our breathing and imagine that we are melting into each other. This form of rapport building is a bonding exercise that deepens trust and intimacy.

The four most terrifying words in a relationship are We need to talk. These words can cause our partner to shutdown his emotions as a form of self-protection. He will either go into denial by stating, "There's nothing wrong"; or on the offensive, "You're always bugging me about our relationship"; or he will retreat into the television set. My greatest difficulty in our relationship used to be getting Charlie to express his emotions. He was raised to be the strong silent male and has worked to overcome that pattern. I was programmed to be the people-pleasing female and used to talk too much, verbalizing before I had crystallized my thoughts. When Charlie expresses his emotions, as he does more easily now, his words are gifts of understanding for our relationship.


 


Sometimes when we are communicating something painful, we want to run away and hide from the rawness of our emotions. We can release the old reaction pattern of dancing away by staying present, processing through our impasse. In resisting the urge to run from conflict, ask yourself, What is the gift of this conflict? How can this experience be my sacred teacher?

The greatest challenge in sex talk and in relationships is to stay out of polarity. Polarity is the feeling of separateness, symbolized by the conflict between the sexes. That same conflict is a mirror of the inner conflict between our masculine and feminine energies. When we feel polarized, we become fearful and defensive and our ego takes control of our emotions. We create walls that separate us from the one we love the most. Many relationships die because the partners wait too long to communicate their feelings, particularly about their sex life. We can allow ourselves to be vulnerable, particularly in our sex talk. We release polarity as we become aware of our feelings of separateness and choose, instead, to create trust, harmony, and oneness.

Say What You Like

Sex talk involves sharing your innermost feelings by revealing what you like and dislike about your sex life. For example, in my workshops, we often demonstrate a way to share this information. One of our demos began with Charlie saying, "I like it when you initiate sex." Then I respond, "I like it when you kiss me passionately at unexpected times, not just during our lovemaking. "

The process consists of a round -- a like, a dislike, and then a like from each partner. When we hear something that is painful, we do not respond verbally. We discuss our feelings immediately afterward, but the exercise should continue without distraction for as many rounds as are agreed upon at the beginning.

  • "I don't like it when you are not mentally present during sex."

  • Charlie's statement was true but painful to hear.I took a deep breath and continued. "I don't like it when you are goal oriented."

  • "I like making love at unexpected times and places."

  • It was my turn to speak, and I was thinking about how much I enjoy oral sex. I felt my words getting tangled in a right-brain processing. "I like... I like it... I like your tongue!"

The group and I broke into nervous laughter. The old reaction pattern of shame had sneaked into my expression. Because of this incident, it has become much easier to say in front of a group, "I love it when we share oral sex." It was a healing experience for me to struggle with breaking the old pattern of shame.

The next day I received a note from one of the workshop participants. It said, "Thank you for your gift of talking about oral sex. I had always felt guilty when my husband Rick tried to get me to make love in this way. I could do it for him, but my religious programming of shame taught me that nice girls didn't receive oral sex. Your statement last night was a healing for me. It gave me permission to fully enjoy my sexuality and Rick's tongue!"

We must stop the guessing game about what we do and do not like in our sexual relationship with our mate. Another healing method of communicating our feelings is to play the I Feel game. Take turns making the following statements to each other: "I feel scared when... I feel angry when... If feel abandoned when... I feel sad when... I feel happy when... I feel ecstasy when..." This exercise empowers couples to take responsibility for their emotions. Do not accept a statement that begins, "You make me feel..." No one can make us feel any emotion without our permission.

A Sexual Beginner

Sex talk requires a beginner's mind. A beginner's mind focuses on the present and sees the beloved as brand new in each moment. We have a tendency to replay all our old dramas, dragging our past into the present. While it is important to heal and release our woundedness, communication can easily reach an impasse when we replay all the old resentments we have felt toward each other. If you feel stuck in your sex talk, ask yourself, "Is this the truth about my beloved? Is what I am feeling the truth about who we really are?"

Our sex talk will be enhanced when we realize that every action is a request for love. No matter how hurtful the comment your mate makes, he is really asking, Do you love me? If we approach every communication as a request for love, we will be able to heal our relationships.

In traveling around the United States and the world, I am constantly reminded of how many lonely people there are. In one of the churches where I spoke, a four-year-old boy and his mother were visiting for the first time. After the service was over, the little boy watched as people hugged each other. He spoke loudly, "Isn't there someone here I can love?" A man standing nearby heard his question and held out his arms. The little boy ran to him, thrilled to be shown affection. We are all like that little boy, wondering how we can give and receive the love that we crave.

Sex talk involves trust and intimacy; releasing polarity; sharing your innermost feelings, including your sexual likes and dislikes; and maintaining a beginner's mind. When we can communicate our needs with our beloved, we will be sharing conscious loving and enhancing our experience of Sacred Sexuality.

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Motivational Enhancement Therapy

Motivational Enhancement Therapy, an addiction treatment designed to evoke rapid and internally motivated change in the drug user.

Motivational Enhancement Therapy, an addiction treatment designed to evoke rapid and internally motivated change in the drug user.Is a client-centered counseling approach for initiating behavior change by helping clients to resolve ambivalence about engaging in drug addiction treatment and stopping drug use. This approach employs strategies to evoke rapid and internally motivated change in the client, rather than guiding the client stepwise through the recovery process.

Motivational Enhancement Therapy therapy consists of an initial assessment battery session, followed by two to four individual treatment sessions with a therapist. The first treatment session focuses on providing feedback generated from the initial assessment battery to stimulate discussion regarding personal substance use and to elicit self-motivational statements. Motivational interviewing principles are used to strengthen motivation and build a plan for change. Coping strategies for high-risk situations are suggested and discussed with the client.

In subsequent sessions, the therapist monitors change, reviews cessation strategies being used, and continues to encourage commitment to change or sustained drug abstinence. Clients are sometimes encouraged to bring a significant other to sessions. This approach has been used successfully with alcoholic addicts and with marijuana addicts.

References:

Budney, A.J.; Kandel, D.B.; Cherek, D.R.; Martin, B.R.; Stephens, R.S.; and Roffman, R. College on problems of drug dependence meeting, Puerto Rico (June 1996). Marijuana use and dependence. Drug and Alcohol Dependence 45: 1-11, 1997.

Miller, W.R. Motivational interviewing: research, practice and puzzles. Addictive Behaviors 61(6): 835-842, 1996.

Stephens, R.S.; Roffman, R.A.; and Simpson, E.E. Treating adult marijuana dependence: a test of the relapse prevention model. Journal of Consulting & Clinical Psychology, 62: 92-99, 1994.

National Institute of Drug Abuse, "Principles of Drug Addiction Treatment: A Research Based Guide."
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