I Have Some Questions For Your Anxiety

August 14, 2013 Jodi Lobozzo Aman, LCSW-R

Sometimes asking questions is a powerful way to move energy. Here are some questions for anxiety. Ask them and see what happens.

Please Ask Anxiety These Questions

What do you want from me?

Why do you want to ruin my life?

Why do you tell me that you are more powerful than me?

Why do you make me feel like I'll have to deal with you forever?questions for anxietyWhy do you have me forget what I know?

Why do you make me feel powerless?

Why do you seem to come out of the blue sometimes? (Especially when you are always attached to something.)

Why do I dismiss that something and judge myself harshly anyways?

Why do you have me thinking that letting you in is me being weak?

Why do you try separate me from all who love me?

How do you convince me to listen to you?

Why do have me focus on the worst possible scenerio?

Why do you lie to me?

Why do I believe you?

What would my life be like if I didn't fratinize with you?

Why don't you just leave me alone?

And I Have Some Anxiety Questions For You

Why do you believe the Anxiety is more powerful than you are?

What has made you feel powerless?

What skills have you used to get through hard things in the past?

What is most important to you about getting rid of Anxiety?

Why is that important?

What do you want to tell the Anxiety?

When do you want to reclaim my life from Anxiety?

What skills have I used in getting over Anxiety in the past?

How do you know you can do this?

Who is around that believes in me?

What do you want to do first?

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Author: Jodi Lobozzo Aman, LCSW-R

Nancy March
November, 27 2013 at 1:34 pm

My question to my Anxiety I have generalized Anxiety and Borderline Personality is why am I so angry all the time when I cant figure out how to help myself or let others help me with problem solving things in my personal life my banking my relationships,i never give therapy a chance I took anger management it helped a few yrs now Im almost 50 and moods are changing

August, 21 2013 at 4:30 am

Thank you Jodi. I find the questions very interesting, and just reading them when anxious helps a lot.
I still have a question that I think I already asked some time ago but I can't remember the answer. What if my anxiety is coming only in "physical symptoms"? Why do panic attacks happen so frequently even if I feel calm and happy? If not a panic attack, it's at least symptoms like feeling breathless or shaking? The mind is quiet...

In reply to by Anonymous (not verified)

August, 21 2013 at 6:39 am

Some people call these kinesthetic flashback. Be glad your mind doesn't go, too. If you don't worry about them, then are they a problem? If you do worry about them, what are you worried about? xo

August, 21 2013 at 6:52 am

I'm not worried about them at all but it's VERY disturbing. I didn't mention everything...

In reply to by Anonymous (not verified)

August, 21 2013 at 1:17 pm

Disturbing is what makes it a problem. That's what I was looking for. So your mind is involved (these events are upsetting) and can be address too. (As you are doing.) xoxox

Keith Vessell
August, 18 2013 at 6:22 pm

Because anxiety wears you down like water to a rock. Soon no strength left to fight everyday

In reply to by Anonymous (not verified)

August, 20 2013 at 1:02 pm

The anxiety wants you to think that you are powerless. The trick to combat it is to find where you are powerful.

August, 16 2013 at 5:45 pm

My anxiety has gotton worse with age. I am 61. I watched my mother go through the same thing but with different triggers. She was more bitter, but I am "fed up" with most things. It seems that I feel I am owed something because I am older. the thing is that I realize that, but can`t control it.

In reply to by Anonymous (not verified)

August, 16 2013 at 9:33 pm

Hmmm, Bob, sometimes inflexibility makes anxiety more powerful. Mayeb you have everything you need except flexibility. You can control it, the anxiety makes you think you can't. You control tons of things, you just have a belief that you can't control this. It blocks you. Shift is small ways and then bigger will happen.

August, 17 2013 at 11:51 am

I used to embrace change in the workplace, but now I see change as another thing to complain about. I am retiring at the end of the year, but I am afraid that inflexibility may continue to follow me.

In reply to by Anonymous (not verified)

August, 17 2013 at 12:00 pm

Good thing you have the power to change it. Don't let Anxiety make you forget that you do!

August, 14 2013 at 9:45 pm

Anxiety has been a part of my life from the time I was born. I do not know what life is like without anxiety. I wish for 1 day with no anxiety, so I know what it feels like to be normal.

In reply to by Anonymous (not verified)

August, 15 2013 at 8:37 am

Mary, was there ever a moment, even a second that you felt free or laughed or had some fun and forgot you were anxious? Just curious? If so, then you can extend it.

In reply to by Anonymous (not verified)

August, 19 2013 at 12:24 pm

I am in no way a professional and have not lived with anxiety at all times, but I certainly have had my many moments in life with anxiety. Something I use that has helped me (and others) is ASMR (Autonomous sensory meridian response). You can Google it to learn more and the main tool I use is ASMR videos on youtube. They can really help to calm me down.

Louise G.
August, 14 2013 at 7:57 am

FAbulous questions Jodi -- definitely would help reframe how I look at anxiety if only because it takes my thinking off -- I'm feeling anxious -- to, what is it about what's happening that is causing me to believe I'm helpless, or unable, or too small or weak or whatever to not handle it.
Love the questions! Thanks.

In reply to by Anonymous (not verified)

August, 14 2013 at 10:58 am

I hope they help. Thanks so much for your feedback, Louise!

August, 14 2013 at 7:36 am

Anxiety I feel is hard often to pinpoint when trying to find the exact causes. Your levels of anxiety may rise as it directly relates to the amount of stress we put on ourselves. We set such high expectations for ourselves today and much of this is driven by our cultures need to focus on achieving more, doing more, being better, performing at higher levels. We need to be gentle with ourselves and remember that we are not capable of always performing at 100% all the time. As long as we do our very best each day and learn to not shame or judge ourselves for not being perfect, we start to see our anxiety often decrease.

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