You Can Let Yourself Be Anxious (Why It's Okay)
It's truly okay to let yourself be anxious. Why? Because sometimes we all just need to allow ourselves to feel how we feel, to be okay with anxious thoughts (Letting Someone with Mental Illness Be Upset). It's even okay to express those anxious feelings. The key is how much we let ourselves be anxious.
To be sure, most people want to not just manage anxiety (which is very important to do) but to completely get rid of anxiety (realistically, anxiety is a normal human emotion that has a purpose, so it's impossible to get rid of it fully -- yet we can get rid of all of that excessive, life-limiting anxiety). If the goal is to reduce the amount of time we feel anxious, why in the world would we let ourselves feel anxious?
Does letting ourselves be anxious set us back? Not necessarily.
It's Healthy to Let Yourself Be Anxious
Letting ourselves feel anxious from time to time is actually good for our mental health and wellbeing because it
- allows you to acknowledge, rather than deny, anxiety
- lets you increase your acceptance of anxiety, which helps you stop fighting it (because when we fight anxiety, our focus is on anxiety)
- provides the opportunity to vent and release feelings
- helps you stop beating yourself up for being anxious (resisting something inside of you sends you the subconscious message that you are "bad" or need fixing)
- similar to the above, letting yourself be anxious helps you separate yourself from your anxiety; anxiety isn't who you are, it's a feeling and group of thoughts and behaviors that you're experiencing.
- is a form of self-acceptance, of self-kindness, and self-care (notice the "selfs" -- this is about you rather than anxiety)
Let Yourself Be Anxious, But Don't Get Stuck
It is indeed healthy to let yourself feel what you feel. Anxiety, though, has a nasty habit of taking over. If we let ourselves wallow in anxiety, anxiety begins to dominate our thoughts and feelings as well as control our actions.
Let yourself feel anxious, and then move forward. Focus on everything else about you that is not anxious.
I discuss this briefly in the below video. I invite you to tune in.
Peterson, T. (2017, April 27). You Can Let Yourself Be Anxious (Why It's Okay), HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2020, September 24 from https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/anxiety-schmanxiety/2017/04/you-can-let-yourself-be-anxious-why-its-ok
Author: Tanya J. Peterson, MS, NCC
Media anxiety gets to me. I cope by turning off all electronic devices and walking or reading a good book...
Thank you so much for sharing things that work for you. Media anxiety affects a lot of people, so this is helpful. If you want to read more about media anxiety specifically, this link will take you to a couple of posts that deal with the topic: https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/tag/anxiety-and-the-news/
I love this read. This really is such an important part of dealing with anxiety. When we want something to go away our initial inclination can be to just try and ignore it, suppress it, do anything BUT acknowledge it. Unfortunately all that does is temporarily hide, or delay it, or worse make it come back that much bigger. By allowing yourself to feel anxious, it's sort of like giving yourself permission that these feelings have just as much validity as the happy/non-anxious ones. Also, observing the anxious feelings without letting them completely take over the wheel and the driver's seat is huge. Thank you for sharing.
Very well said! Thank you for sharing your insights!
Thank you for this wonderful blog post. I'm a public affairs representative for the Hogg Foundation in Austin, TX. A recent episode of our podcast, Into the Fold, dealt with the subject of politics-induced stress. I think that it may have some value for your audience.
Here's the link to a blog post about it: http://hogg.utexas.edu/political-climate-chronic-stressor. Any social media shares by HealthyPlace would be appreciated.
Ike Evans, Hogg Foundation for Mental Health
Thank you for sharing your resource, Mr. Evans. It's an excellent article and podcast that is useful in our rather toxic climate. I wrote a piece on this topic earlier this year: https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/anxiety-schmanxiety/2017/02/handling-anxiety-in-a-fear…. Media (traditional and social) can be overwhelming and damaging to our mental health. Thank you, and the University of Texas at Austin, for addressing this in such a helpful way.