How to Offer Mental Health Support to Someone Who Rejects It

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How to Offer Mental Health Support to Someone Who Rejects It

You offer mental health support to your family member or loved one, but they reject it. Try these mental health support ideas.You've tried to offer mental health support to a loved one or family member, but they keep rejecting it. Now what do you do?

Why Would Someone Reject Mental Health Support?

When someone is going through a mental health struggle, he or she may feel embarrassed or insecure about their battle. Many people who are newly diagnosed with a mental illness, or are dealing with new moods and emotions, may grow angry when others try to show mental health support (Mental Illness and Anger). It is absolutely normal for the struggling individual to close others out, but sometimes, loved ones may feel helpless because they don't know how to reach that person to show support (Isolation: A Double-Edged Sword For The Mentally Ill).

Start with Small Doses of Mental Health Support

You do not want to overwhelm someone with support and advice if they are not ready to embrace it yet. Instead, find small, non-intrusive ways to show them you care. You can do this in ways that are not obviously focused on the mental illness at hand.

  1. Plan a Relaxing Activity. By planning a day or an activity to do with the person struggling, the individual will be able to step away from their frustrations and focus on something else. Make sure the activity is relaxing, calming and, of course, fun for everyone involved.
  2. Buy a Helpful Book or Movie. When you purchase a book or movie with a positive message or involves a character similar to the person you know, that person will be able to take the positive message without having to talk about his or her own struggles.
  3. Mail a Fun Care Package. In a day of constant email and messaging, getting actual mail can be extremely exciting. Send your loved one a package filled with fun ways to de-stress not involving their mental illness in any way. You can easily find low-cost items that will brighten your loved one's day and remind them to keep their chin up.

One final note - and this may be the most significant insight I can share with you - while you may want to talk with the person about their mental illness, they may not be ready to or feel like it, or they may not want to discuss it with you. This can be downright frustrating and angering. That's why you may want to consider a therapist for yourself. You'll have someone to share your feelings with and a professional who can provide some guidance.

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APA Reference
Aline, J. (2015, March 9). How to Offer Mental Health Support to Someone Who Rejects It, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, July 23 from

Last Updated: October 8, 2022

Medically reviewed by Harry Croft, MD

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