I’m Sorry for Everything, Including Over-Apologizing

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Do you over-apologize? What’s up with that? Discover why people with mental illness over-apologize and how to stop that on HealthyPlace.

I’m Sorry for Everything, Including Over-Apologizing

Is over-apologizing, saying sorry for everything and anything, part of your repertoire? Let’s try and figure out why that may be happening.

Why Do You Over-apologize?

Are you struggling with something so all-encompassing, so very difficult that it causes you to apologize for things you really don’t need to? Tragically, mental illness negatively impacts our sense of self. Mental illness disrupts thinking so much that our own thoughts are no longer trustworthy. Mental illness disrupts emotions; sometimes they’re so strong they engulf other people around us, while other times they’re so numb that we can’t feel them.

Living with a mental illness affects motivation and behavior and makes us question our own worth. We might keenly experience stigma, and that might make us ashamed. We might get confused sometimes, and that can make us frustrated. These effects of mental illness can destroy self-esteem and make us over-apologize. We even apologize for saying “sorry.” Here’s why apologizing too much is an effect of mental illness we can do away with.

  • Mental illness is just that—an illness, not a character trait.
  • There’s no need to apologize for diabetes or other illnesses, and there’s no need to apologize for a mental disorder.
  • You have talents, abilities, interests, and strengths that make up “you,” and you are nothing to apologize for.

Focus on who you truly are and all the good that you have to offer. As you develop this strong sense of yourself, you’ll become free of the impulse to over-apologize.

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APA Reference
Peterson, T. (2019, March 26). I’m Sorry for Everything, Including Over-Apologizing, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, June 18 from

Last Updated: March 26, 2019

Medically reviewed by Harry Croft, MD

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