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Dating Someone with an Eating Disorder: What You Must Know

July 14, 2020 Hollay Ghadery

Dating someone with an eating disorder can be challenging. I know every single one of my past relationships was affected by my eating disorder, and while there are undeniably things I could have done differently, there are also things I wish I'd been able to articulate to my exes to make the relationship easier.

Understand, I am not here to make a comment on whether the strategies I'm about to share would have saved any of my past relationships from ending, but I do know that there are a few things my exes could have done or said to help me  help us  have a healthier relationship.

De-emphasize Physicality When Dating Someone with an Eating Disorder

When dating someone with an eating disorder, emphasizing the way people look can hurt more deeply than you might think. Forget about not staring at someone else other than your partner, in my opinion, it's best to keep any comments on physicality to a minimum. I get that everyone is human and that we all are aware of appearance, but if you're dating someone with an eating disorder, he or she is hyper-aware of his or her physicality and doesn't need to be reminded that people can judge others based on it. 

Obviously, this means that you shouldn't ogle other people, but it also means that you shouldn't focus on your partner's physical appearance either  even if you are praising it.

When a boyfriend told me I was beautiful, it only cemented the fact that beauty is what mattered. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying that you can't tell your partner he or she looks amazing, but  you should tell your partner all the other things you cherish about him or her: intelligence, humor, charm, wit, kindness  praise all these other traits in your partner and in other people you admire. 

Help your partner see that he or she is not his or her height, weight or warped reflection in the mirror. Help your partner see who you see  your partner is more than the sum of his or her physical parts. 

What do you wish your ex or exes had known about dating someone with an eating disorder? Share your thoughts in the comments.

APA Reference
Ghadery, H. (2020, July 14). Dating Someone with an Eating Disorder: What You Must Know, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2020, September 23 from https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/survivinged/2020/7/dating-someone-with-an-eating-disorder-what-you-must-know



Author: Hollay Ghadery

Hollay Ghadery is a writer and editor living in Ontario, Canada. She has a book of non-fiction set to be published by Guernica Editions in 2021. The work dives into the documented prevalence of mental health issues in bi-racial women. Connect with Hollay on her website, Twitter, Facebook or Instagram.

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