Guilt: A Distressing Effect of Anxiety
Guilt is a distressing effect of anxiety. Guilt is the uncomfortable experience of self-flagellation for thinking, feeling, doing, and generally just existing,wrong (These Awful Effects of Anxiety Must Stop). Anxiety is the loud, critical voice in our head that provides a running commentary on the things we do wrong (wrong from anxiety's perspective, that is). As if it weren't bad enough to worry, fret, and fear that we've done something wrong, anxiety takes our discomfort to a new level. A very distressing effect of anxiety is guilt.
Anxiety Effects Amplify the Guilt of Making Mistakes
The ability to empathize with others and to see things from their perspective are great qualities that help us form close connections with others. When we can empathize and perspective-take, we are aware of others' needs as well as our impact on others. This allows us to understand each other and to know if we've wronged someone be it intentionally or unintentionally. It's a natural reaction to feel bad and apologize.
This is all good and part of what defines our humanity. Those who don't live with a great deal of anxiety can say sorry, make things better, and move happily forward. For those of us who live or have lived with anxiety disorders like generalized anxiety disorder and social anxiety disorder, mistake-making isn't quite so straightforward. A very uncomfortable effect of anxiety that complicates matters is guilt (Guilt and Mental Illness).
Guilt Is an Effect of Anxiety
Merriam-Webster defines guilt as, "a bad feeling caused by knowing or thinking that you have done something bad or wrong."
And what causes the "thinking that you have done something bad or wrong?" Anxiety causes the feeling, and guilt is the effect.
Just some of the worries and guilt anxiety puts in our heads include:
- You said the wrong thing, and you need to worry about it and feel guilty about hurting people.
- You should have spoken up. That wasn't very nice. You should feel guilty.
- You asked him to run to the store, and he got into a car accident. It's your fault. You should feel guilty.
- The quality of your work was poor. Think of the people who have to work to make up for it. You should feel guilty.
But Guilt Then Causes Anxiety
Guilt is an effect of anxiety, and it simultaneously is a cause. It's a vicious cycle: anxiety causes guilt which in turn fuels more anxiety.
People living with anxiety tend to blame themselves and take responsibility for other peoples' happiness. It's not enough to want others to be happy; indeed, anxiety and it's effect, guilt, tell us that others' problems and negative experiences are somehow our fault.
As a result of this cycle of anxiety and guilt, people living with anxiety overthink things, read into expressions, tones, gestures, and words. This can be wearing, increasing the symptoms of anxiety:
- Physical symptoms -- Anxiety and guilt can cause headaches, stomachaches, muscle tension, sleep disturbances, and more.
- Emotional symptoms of guilt as an effect of anxiety can involve feeling on-edge, defensive, irritable, sorrowful, and a feeling of desperation to apologize and make things better.
- Behavioral symptoms of anxiety and its effect, guilt, can include clinginess, over-apologizing, trying to take action to compensate for the supposed transgression, and other attempts to please others, avoid judgment, and other actions meant to right perceived wrongs and/or repair relationships.
Guilt is a very distressing effect of anxiety. Anxiety and guilt have a mutual cause-and-effect relationship that makes the cycle difficult to break. It is possible to reduce guilt, one of anxiety's effects.
Stay tuned; the next article will explore how to deal with guilt.
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APA Reference
Peterson, T.
(2016, July 7). Guilt: A Distressing Effect of Anxiety, HealthyPlace. Retrieved
on 2024, December 26 from https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/anxiety-schmanxiety/2016/07/guilt-a-distressing-effect-of-anxiety
Author: Tanya J. Peterson, MS, NCC, DAIS
I really appreciate this article. I struggle with extreme guilt, not only over my anxiety and how it affects others, but also over having the anxiety in the first place.
I have a hard time keeping friendships, but even things like doctor-patient relationships are challenging for me. For example, I’m plagued with thoughts about: do I come across as critical of them when I ask too many questions or seek reassurance because I am anxious (or when I ask the same question more than once because I’m still anxious), do I sound dismissive or unappreciative, am I irritating when I call because of a concern that turns out to be nothing?
And then I get into loop of swearing I won’t call ever again, I won’t say if I’m afraid something is wrong because I know it’s probably just anxiety, and I’ll get it right at my next appointment. I’ll only be positive, and I won’t ask too many questions and I’ll do it right this time.
And then, I ask stupid questions and fear that I come across as unappreciative and have screwed it all up. And then I have guilt over being such a terrible person to deal with, and also that I am anxious and it’s annoying (and I imagine easily misinterpreted as me being nit-picky and neurotic, both of which are true I guess).
Sometimes the guilt and shame feel like the world is ending, and I wish I could just be normal, be OK, and get it right.
I randomly found this article because I was looking up why I always feel guilty. It’s my last summer at home before college and I constantly feel guilty for not giving my family more attention but I’d rather hangout with my friends to be completely honest. I feel like I’m always doing things to make other people happy and if I don’t then I feel guilty. For instance I have a lot of friends and I work during the summer so I don’t have that much time off but when I do so many different people want to hangout and then I end up getting anxiety about how I’m going to tell someone I can’t hangout. Then I just feel guilty so sometimes even if I don’t really want to hangout cause I’m tired I still will because I know they really want to hangout, so I feel bad.
Hi Izzy. I totally understand where you're coming from. I have felt similarly in the past. What works best for me is setting boundaries for myself and keeping to those boundaries. I'm honest with myself about how much time I need for my tasks (work, etc.), then myself (very important), then others (family and friends). I'm honest with myself about who I want to spend time with and why. Sure, obligation and respect for family comes into play but I often offset that with more time for myself or a really good/favorite friend. Go easy on yourself. And, take care of you first. Without that, none of the rest is possible.
Thank you for this. It was been helpful.
I am currently overthinking about my childhood and teen years. I keep having panic attacks at home/ cry for no reason/ stressed/ lack of sleep. Especially during lockdown.
During my younger years I was bullied and bullied others - it was name-calling and laughing and I was being treated like this too.
I keep replaying different things I have done that have upset and hurt people. I hate myself. I wish I could change my past and be kinder.
I am now training to become a teacher because I don't want others feeling the way I did and also, those who are bullied or bullying.
Hi, I made a stupid comment in my family dinner at christmas, (about the food being too spicy) and my family got really offended, but didn't say anything until a month afterwards. I got into a fight with my grandfather and insulted him, and sent him a screenshot of a conversation with my cousin where we were talking about them.. so it escalated and everyone got even more mad at me, but i apologized for everything, to my cousin for resending a personal message, insulting my grandfather and making inappropriate comments.. and i'm in good terms with everyone now, except my aunt who is still mad at me and still tells other members in my family that i was very rude and did things that were not okay.. so i can't help feeling very guilty and anxious.. i replay the scenario and feel ashamed for saying a comment like that on christmas and can't stop thinking everyday that everyone thinks i'm stupid and only tolerate me but don't really love me or like spending time with me.. i somehow feel i will be marked forever and even if we're in good terms they will always remember this and think i'm an idiot.. i'm really struggling with this guilt trip and anxiety.. i don't know what to do.. i already apologized but somehow they are still mad..
Hi Isabel,
It's not a good feeling to have to carry around anxiety and guilt and all of the accompanying emotions because of a very human blunder. It sounds like you have done many things to apologize and repair your relationship with your family. It's good that almost all of them have responded positively. Let your actions and words now and in the future show them that you are letting yourself and everyone else move on and that a single comment made in the past isn't important. The more you mention it or let it control your interactions with them, the more your anxiety will grow. Even if you feel awkward for a while longer, don't let those anxious feelings affect your actions now. Your family will lighten up and move forward with you. Unfortunately, you can't control your aunt's reactions. She is choosing to hang on for some reason that you'll probably never know. But if you and everyone else moves on, she'll face a choice: either keep the problem alive in her own mind and heart -- and push away her family in the process -- or let it go and join everyone else in going forward. Whatever she chooses is her own decision and has surprisingly little to do with you. Feel confident that you've made amends, and focus on the new moments.
My guilt is making me ill . My son who has learning dissabilities autism and cerebral palsy hes 45 yrs old he has had many problems leukaemia as a child had tendon ops for legs as a child lives alone has carers for a few hrs not much . He now has many medical problems that ive been trying to help him with Ibs has had skin cancer . Recently had test for circulation in legs which was fine but his feet were mentioned saying he needs to see a podiatrist he has one foot larger than the other due to cerebral palsy and a bad gait . Now i think why did i never get him therapy for this condition or have his feet checked more often he had his tendons stretched as a child but i was never offered any thing else such as therapy for him shoes etc now i have this over whelming guilt and cant imagine why i havent got him help before now he didnt seem to struggle walking as a child but is very stiff now hes lost a bit of weight recently its been hard work but were getting there i just feel i made the wrong decision letting him live alone we help him with everything as he cant read or write i am riddled with guilt
Hi Gill,
It sounds like you have been very supportive of your son, and your love and care are likely a big part of why he can live independently. Independence is important, and you've recognized and honored that. Perhaps he could continue to live independently but with more frequent check-ins from a carer (or a similar solution that lets your son live on his own but receive a bit more assistance. Given that he didn't seem to always struggle with walking, it makes sense that you wouldn't seek treatment until recently. It might not have made a noticeable difference before now. There might not have been much to do, plus medical treatments and technology have improved over time--when he was younger, the treatments might have been less effective. This type of guilt, the feeling that you "should" or shouldn't have" done certain things, that what you're doing isn't good enough, etc. is very common among people caring for someone with intense medical needs. But this doesn't make the guilt deserved. When you find yourself stuck in guilt, shift your attention to all that you have done and continue to do for your son. Keep doing what you need to do in each situation without looking back.
Thank you for this article I feel better understanding what I’m feeling after reading it. I recently had a half sibling reveal from a DNA ancestry test. This lead to a secret my mom has been holding for 43 years. She was forced to reveal because a relative threatened to expose the secret. I feel very protective of my mom and this has caused me some pain. Now I find myself wanting to fix everything and it’s hard to deal with my emotion. But the cycle of guilt about living 2 hours away and not being there is hard.
Hello K,
Your situation sounds very stressful. It's natural to experience what you've described. Wanting to fix things is natural, too, but unfortunately it's one of those natural inclinations people have that misguide us. Usually, people want to fix things because they care about loved ones and want everything to be better for them. So it sounds like you are high in the character strength of caring, and you can use that in your life and relationships. One of the hardest things for people who are high in this trait is separating caring and helping from the need to fix all problems (especially big ones). It's impossible for one person to do this, and sometimes improvement is a healing process that takes time and effort on everyone's part. That can lead to quality lives and relationships, so fixing it all won't necessarily have the best outcome. I'm not sure if you saw the follow-up article to this one. It has some says to reduce that sense of guilt that don't have to do with fixing. https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/anxiety-schmanxiety/2016/07/five-ways-to-reduce-anxiet… Be patient with yourself and the situation. And know that you can still be supportive of your mom even though you are two hours away.
Thank you! I am ordering your workbook on amazon tomorrow (I was the one who tweeted you!) I think now having Medicare I am just so happy to be working with a therapist again and not just my psychiatrist. They are doing a home program with me and I am so excited and a little nervous. I have been using guided meditations since the 90s! Now I have so many wonderful meditations on youtube and there are more resources in our digital age! I am my own worst enemy and I tell myself I don’t care what others think, but I do. The disability has really helped my confidence and my ability to get help, but I do feel guilt because there are so many people who need it and can’t get it. It took me 7 years. Maybe I’m just too caring for others and not myself ? again thank you for touching base with me! ?
Good luck to you with everything, Joy! Here and on Twitter, I do admire your attitude and enthusiasm. You'll go far with it. I have a perspective for you to consider regarding your guilt for being able to see a therapist. It's definitely tragic that there are so many people who can't see a therapist. I'm wondering, though, if you passed up your opportunity, would it magically make others get therapy? I think that you can release your guilt because your seeing a therapist will help you, and it won't hurt others or change their situation. Just my two cents!
Thank you for your article! I was going through my medical files and saw an old therapist had written down “quilt based anxiety”, so I googled it and found this. Yes I do indeed have it! I have enjoyed looking at your articles and Facebook page. I was diagnosed with panic disorder when I was 18 and I am now 42, I was a “functioning agoraphobic” up until 8 years ago when the recession hit and I lost my job as an architect. I was just awarded full SSDI and have found a new therapist, and I feel guilty for winning my case. I think because agoraphobia is shunned by society that we feel ever increasingly guilty and ashamed of ourselves. I only have a few real friends and my emotional support dog. I am excited about therapy and making goals and I do work a small amount at home and away from home when I can, but I am about 80% housebound. It isn’t SGA. I do a lot of meditation and yoga and I believe at my age have read every book made on anxiety. My favorite is the anxiety workbook that I have had since I was 18. I will read more of your articles in the morning! Thank you.
Hello Joy,
Thank you for your comment. I appreciate it! Guilt is such a terrible thing to experience, and it does so much damage to our sense of self. With patience and practice, it can be overcome. And truly, I can tell from what you wrote that your likelihood of rising above guilt, agoraphobia, and other manifestations of anxiety that you might be experiencing. You're motivated and enthusiastic and ready to work with your therapist. And you have a strong foundation already with yoga and meditation -- and only being 80% housebound, not 100%. You absolutely can make positive changes. Trust yourself, be patient and kind to yourself, and forget about what others think! (That is all challenging, so trust the process with your therapist, too.)
Hi Maggie,
Anxiety and guilt are evil twins! Before I share a thought, I want to explain what I will not be saying (because it might sound like this, but it isn't). I won't tell you to brush it off or forget about it. People used to tell me these things when I was stuck in the very thing you're describing. I knew that most of them were well-meaning so it didn't upset me, but it also didn't work. It just added an extra layer of guilt and anxiety because I'd feel terrible for feeling that way on top of everything else! Anxiety can really take hold of your (everyone's) thoughts and wreak havoc. One good way to get past it, ironically, is accept that you have the thoughts, which means acknowledging them without judging them. Then, you can begin to tell yourself, "I'm having the thought that other people have it worse" instead of "I wrong for complaining because other people have it worse." When you see your words just as thoughts, you don't have to assume they're true. Also, keep reminding yourself that there's no comparison to others. Right now, for you in your life, anxiety and guilt are making things difficult. This is your experience, separate from everyone else's. That's part of acceptance, too. This was just one small suggestion to begin distancing yourself from your anxious thoughts and guilt. Working with a therapist can be extremely helpful. You might want to consider that possibility. Therapists are there for everyone no matter what their challenges are, so you won't be dismissed as "not as bad as others." :)
Hi, ive been dealing with anxiety for over a year now and sometimes i feel guilty for complaining about it too much since i know there are so many people that deal with so many conditions that are worse such as schizophrenia and diabetes and who knows what else, sometimes i just feel like im being selfish on talking about how bad my anxiety is when my life has been relatively good, do you know how i can get past it?
Can't work can't live my life can't set goals can't rest. Alls I can do is think ahead of the worst times to come and it is and will be misery I'm 27 my dad is sick myou sister is seeking medical care in different country because she's sick I was sick all three of us had cancer plus I am in a critical condition mentally to which I'm scared of life and suffering I spend my days in the house keep getting turned down for disability and do question at what point is the fight worth it I'm no good to no one mostly to myself and am a letdown when I'm depended on it just wonder alot because the thoughts I have is do feel I'm losing my mind and have lost touch with human kind plus no one truly understands and they don't even try life is a fight and by the looks of things from my experience there's only one winner.
Hi Tom,
You are dealing with a great deal. These resources have the potential to provide support, connection, and help. The first is the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. They listen and can provide immediate support, and they can connect you to other resources. The other two are online therapy services (there are many; these two are among the best).
www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org -- 1-800-273-8255
www.betterhelp.org
www.talkspace.com
I took some old pain medicine that I hid from my wife for about a month. I came clean, I was not addicted, but the guilt and shame of taking it has caused me to have panic attacks and nearly constant anxiety. I can't sleep, eat, etc....I can barely work without almost constant anxiety medicine. I weaned off Kloponin about a year ago and everything in my life was going perfectly. I just feel I really let everyone down and screwed it up.
Hi PD,
Guilt and anxiety definitely have a way of taking over, distorting our thoughts and emotions, twisting things so that we no longer see the truth. Anxiety and guilt lie, and when we buy into the lies (it's easy to do because they're so compelling), we become more anxious, feel more guilty, and don't see clearly. This is a function of guilt and anxiety. You're not alone in this, and it's not a flaw. Many people find it helpful to begin to separate the lies from the truth, and doing that starts in the present moment instead of the past. In revisiting our past actions, we (all humans) tend to see the negative and find things to reinforce our guilt. So instead, it can be helpful to stay in the present. Take your present moment at face value and simply observe. Did you really let everyone down? Did you really screw things up? Two approaches that can be effective in dealing with guilt and anxiety are acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) and mindfulness (mindfulness stand on its own, and it's also a part of ACT). This article gives a brief overview of ACT: https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/anxiety-schmanxiety/2015/07/stop-avoiding-anxiety-acce… Creating ways to pay attention to what's going on now can go a long way in helping you to forgive yourself and let the past go.
I feel so guilty about something I’ve done like a year ago and I keep on thinking about it. It just won’t stop. I’ve been having a lot of anxiety about it and it prevents me from doing things I want to do. I’ve also had some panic attacks. This guilt feeling is haunting me every day and I don’t know how to stop it.
Hi C,
Guilt has a way of completely consuming us, and it can grow bigger and bigger if we let it. It's not a "you" thing -- it's a human thing. You're not alone. Your description of what's happening is very accurate. It gets in the way of our lives, and it replaces positive thoughts and emotions with negative ones. You can stop it. It's a process that takes patience and time. It has grown for an entire year, so it will take effort to shrink it. It's worth it.
If you can do anything to repair the situation, that might help. Addressing the problem rather than avoiding it often goes a long way toward healing. Sometimes, that's impossible. So if you can't do this, that's okay. Many people find that doing something symbolic helps them heal, such as volunteering for an organization that has something do to with the situation (an organization that promotes sober and distraction-free driving, for example), donating something (blood, money, time, etc.) in someone's honor.) These may be extreme, but they're fairly common examples. If you can take any kind of action, no matter how small, you will be doing something positive and just might find that you are less haunted.
Something else you might look into is acceptance and commitment therapy. It is helpful for many things, and it is especially helpful for guilt. This article is a quick introduction to what ACT is. Although the focus of the article is on anxiety, it still provides an overview that applies to dealing with guilt: https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/anxiety-schmanxiety/2015/07/stop-avoiding-anxiety-acce…
Hello!
So I have really been struggling with the constant sick feeling of worrying and feeling guilty. I reached a heart rate of 155 today when I was at my peak level of worry. I know this is not good for my health and I need some advice. I have made mistakes that have hurt someone I love dearly and we have made peace with it. But, even though we have made peace and it’s been over a year I am now finding myself wanting to talk about the smallest of mistakes and in the end only causes more worry. I know this is probably anxiety but I just cannot do this anymore I feel like I’m going crazy. Please help me.
Hello A,
Anxiety absolutely makes people feel like they're going crazy. The good news is that you are not doing that (you are still aware of and in control of your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors even though you don't always like them). A very effective practice to help you with this situation is mindfulness. Your guilt and anxiety are pulling you back into the past and keeping you stuck there. When you ruminate about things in the past, they affect what you think, feel, do, and say in the present. Mindfulness helps you stay in the present. Begin to catch yourself thinking about the past and feeling guilty, gently remind yourself that you are living right now, in this moment, and the other person is at peace. Use all of your senses to keep you rooted in the present moment, and allow yourself to have time to settle back into the present before you talk about problems. If you find that mindfulness isn't enough (it does take some time to work, so be patient with yourself), you might find it helpful to work with a therapist for support in overcoming guilt and anxiety.
I have recently finished vipasnna meditation. I have anxiety with some guilt. What i m observing now that after 10 day meditation course my anxiety n associated guilt become more severe. I did the course with full sincerity. But the things which more helpful is knowing the reality about thoughts and that they are not under my control. Whatever happened in the past was not done under full awareness and i cant control n change them. Start accepting the anxiety n whatever guilt. Like other body parts these good/bad thoughts are also my parts and i accepts. Not trying to change past neither future. Just acceptance.
I feel for you I really do I'm in same position as with regards feeling guilty because I'm not there for someone in his worst times and I know he'd be there for me he's a great man and love him dearly and should be there alot More for him and it's eating me up inside
Wow. I have felt and have been trying to manage this same feeling for a year now, and I haven’t read or found anyone else who described what I was feeling so accurately until I read your comment. I hope you are doing better. I don’t know who you are or your whole story but you are not alone and I’m glad to know I’m not either.
Thank you this really helped me the way that you explained the causes of anxiety.
Hi Julia,
Thank you so much for your feedback! I appreciate it.
Hi Tanya, I really feel you understand and I was wondering if you could talk a bit about the guilt after calling in sick because of anxiety, but making it pass as an "accepted" sickness. I always feel afterwards like I should imprison myself in my room and basically bring myself to sickness. Does anyone feel that way? Thanks for any input.
Hi Vanessa,
You are definitely not alone, and hopefully other readers will weigh in on feeling guilty for calling in sick because of anxiety. It's not right, but there is still a strong belief in society that mental health issues like anxiety are "lesser" or not legitimate, and that people "shouldn't" call in sick for anxiety, etc. That's a change that is needed and will happen slowly. For now, think of yourself rather than society's attitude. If you are calling in sick because you don't feel well and feel like you won't be able to do your job right (and it sounds like this is true), you are using the illness policy for exactly what it was designed for. You don't have to imprison yourself and make yourself physically ill! :) Think of how calling in sick will help you get back on track and do your job well when you return. Practicing self-care so you can do your job well is proactive and is a sign of strength. (And just because society says that calling in sick for anxiety is wrong doesn't make that a truth. It's an opinion!)
Hi, I really liked the article. I recently found out about my anxiety a few months ago. It has flipped my world upside down. I struggle with guilt a lot in my anxiety. I have been caught questioning myself almost every day about if I am causing my own anxiety. Is my anxiety my fault. Am I being selfish. Honestly I am so confused.
Hello -A-,
Confusion is a very frustrating part of anxiety. Anxiety can make us second-guess ourselves, think that we're at fault, believe we're not good enough, etc. An important first step is knowing that all of this confusion is part of anxiety. Anxiety absolutely is not your fault, nor are you selfish! Recognize those thoughts as anxious thoughts and start paying attention to something else. The thoughts will still be there (at least for awhile), but you aren't caught up in them -- especially the thoughts that are guilt-based!!
Thank you for your article. I think I needed the reminder of the self-perpetuating parts of anxiety (in its many forms) which for me is linked with panic disorder and PTSD. I work on it every week - however I'm not much of a reader. Today I felt guilty and snapped (in my head I snapped at least) as a friend made me feel guilty that I wasn't immediately available. It's so true that we try to please others - in all honesty I prefer to try and make others happy and know that isn't the most healthy approach. Anyhow I'm struggling to find the words to write what I want to say now - so thanks again and I'm off to read the next article.
Hello NW,
Thank you for leaving a comment. Don't worry about finding words -- we process things in ways other than words, and I think your meaning makes perfect sense. Wanting to make others happy can be a good thing, as it's part of what connects people. It should be a back-and-forth relationship, each wanting to help the other be happy. And you are "someone," too so never forget that you can think of making yourself happy.
Hi...at last i found article about what i feeling, i got panic attack 3 month ago, till now its make me feel for anything,i still take my cbt but now i feel other feeling beside i still feel worry and fear now i feel guilt,,everything what i do make me feel guilt...at last i dont want talk with my friend n always upset...
Hi Annisa,
You're definitely not alone in experiencing guilt -- it's not just you. CBT can be a very effective approach to overcoming the negative thoughts that prevent us from fully living life. CBT doesn't always help everyone or every issue. If you find that it isn't helping, you might want to search for information (HealthyPlace, Psychology Today, and Good Therapy all have helpful information) on acceptance and commitment therapy and solution-focused therapy ( also called solution-focused brief therapy). Either of these can be very effective in combating things like guilt, anxiety, fear, and negative thoughts in general.
Thank you for your article. Where can I find how to deal with guilt.
Hi Jacky,
Guilt isn't easy to deal with, but it certainly isn't impossible. It can be significantly reduced so it doesn't plague you. (Guilt is a human emotion that won't ever disappear because it can serve a function and even be healthy, but unhealthy guilt can be eliminated.) I have another article here on HealthyPlace about reducing anxiety and guilt: https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/anxiety-schmanxiety/2016/07/five-ways-to-reduce-anxiet… Also, GoodTherapy.org has information on guilt as well as a therapist finder tool: http://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/issues/guilt. Keep doing what you're doing -- seeking and reading information. That's an important part of the healing process.