Psychology of Sex Homepage

VIEWER DISCRETION ADVISED: Language on this site is sexual in nature. Not recommended for younger or sensitive viewers.

I'm Krista. Welcome to The Psychology of Sex website for both women and men.

I don't know about you, but I used to have very mixed feelings about sex and/or a relationship with someone else. When I was in counseling, my therapist would say this is normal for everyone. "Sometimes you want it, sometimes you don't," she'd say.

Then I'd chime in: "and sometimes you want it with someone else and other times, you're better off alone."

Since sex isn't just about procreation anymore, I think that's what makes it so confusing for people. What's right? What's wrong? How do you handle the mechanics of sex, your sexual desires, and balance that with any emotional feelings you may have?

Self-esteem plays a big role in how you feel about sex and how you handle relationships. Communication is another big issue. You need to learn how to talk in a way so the other person can hear and understand you.

And then there's always "I didn't know that!" or "what's wrong with me?"

Most sex guides I've come across concentrate on "technique" - this position, these toys. You won't really find that here. For a moment though, I want you to think back on your sexual history and replay in your mind one of your favorite sexual experiences. What were the key elements of this experience that made it so good for you? I'm actually willing to bet that the key elements didn't have much to do with technique at all, and had more to do with passion and energy.

I'm not a licensed therapist or sex counselor of any kind. I just have a strong interest in the subject. Hopefully you'll find some answers to questions you might have and as you can imagine, the psychology of sex is very interesting.

I invite you to come inside and explore it with me.

• how to have good sex

• sex and intimacy

• sexual fantasies

• sexual problems

• sexual health

• sex therapy

• women and sex

• men and sex

• teenage sex

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Have you ever wondered what your (or anyone else's) sex life is like, compared to the average sex life of the world population?

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