What to Do When Everything Sucks

Thank you.
Everything right now is just feeling so hopeless for me. My mom has feelings for another guy, her first love from her childhood who has come back to town, and I am almost positive my parents will get divorced. They are having a 3-month separation right now, and at the end of this month, my mom will make her decision. My dad wants none of this, and he is clearly really upset. I am too, and none of my friends know about the situation. At school, I am unpopular and there is constant drama in my friend group. Plus, a lot of people in my class are calling me mean and my BFF wants our friends to herself and is very competitive. It may not be as terrible as others' situations, but it is really stressing me out right now.

I feel this sometimes. Especially in the last week where I told my mother that I think it wise to stop contact for a little while and instead of asking why and showing concern and support, she went on how its not fair for her not to see my kids after I said she can't see my kids without seeing me and went on a furious rampage telling me to loose her number because she never wants to speak to me again. I hung up on her thinking this is why I told her me and my psychologist thought it best that we not have contact for a while, it doesnt have to be a forever thing, but until I feel better and shes able to get better herself so she isnt as toxic then as she is now. And ive been having onefof those off weeks where everyday is a bad one. Even writing this is getting me a little sensative. I try and distract myself, but its never been a strong point in my life as ive gone through Anxiety and depression throughout my life. Ive never been good at concentration to get through it at times and close family and friends pay the price for my lack of concentration.

I did DBT and it changed my life. Acceptance isn't about saying something is ok it just about not putting my energy into fighting what is. It's hard to do at times but worth the effort. I also try and go out of my way to do something nice for someone else. Just smiling at them and saying a cheery Hi or complimenting someone having a bad day. It's proven by science that giving is more effective in raising your mood than getting. Odd buy true.

I think the wisest thing that anyone ever said to me was along the lines of 'this, too, shall pass'. It helped me to realise that nothing ever stays the same, good, or bad. So batten down the hatches, and remember that things will change. Oh, and make the best of the good times, never take it for granted. Your article struck a chord because I too just feel like going back to bed this morning. Nothing particularly terrible, just enough to tip into a sad day. I am going to try to bannish it via housework. I hate housework, but I like it when my house looks tidy and clean (not often), and I find that doing anything at all helps. It's hardest when I dont have impending deadlines to work towards, so I have to set artificial ones, write lists of small things to achieve etc. I will stick some music on and try to work through it. I may even end up with a clean kitchen...thankyou for taking the time to write the article - sometimes just knowing that other people struggle too makes us feel less of a loser. X

no. this article doesnt help at all. listen to some music as loud as your ipod will allow and lay down. keep saying to yourself "it will be better tommorow" even though in my case, it really wasnt.

I had one of those weeks, everything was breaking down in my life and I just found out that my health insurance company is going out of insurance. Then there was something that happened at home that really upset me. I am fighting the battle to stop sinking into a deep depression. I read this blog and it made sense. I'm still depressed, but it's not like it wa before this.

Thank you. I lost my brother this week and your words really helped. I've been focusing on the wrong things.

I have had a rotten few days, my dearest friend come to have a cuppa with me and I was having a good old pity party when I realized just a few months ago her dearest husband had been killed in an accident. How stupid of me to dwell on my woes when my friend is in a much worse position than I was. It soon woke me up to the fact that my sadness is only short lived hers was forever.

After 7 years of loyalty and dedication. I was laid off, then found new job, but I got fired today. 2012 husband died. 2006 my daughter died.
After my husband died, my stepfather evicted me because he wanted more money for the suite. Since my husband died after 9 months of chemo and bone marrow transplant, my family has fallen apart and I have nothing. I have no idea what I am doing or why. Can I accept this? NO!! I don't accept this is my life. Oh and after my husband died, I was diagnosed with mixed connective tissue disease- I am in constant chronic pain. My psychiatrist suggested DBT because I self harm but now that you said it's about acceptance, no thanks. I will never accept this. It's not ripped bags on a rainy day. This is life at its worst.

Hey Denise! Sorry to hear you are having one of those days! Try to do something for yourself and enjoy it. Maybe watch a funny video, get a manicure or go eat lunch with a friend. Something small can totally help, even if its for a minute! Good luck!

I'm having one of those days, and even though I know all the things in this article, reading it still made me want to scream and punch holes in a wall.