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I was raised in a family that took holiday celebrations to a stratospheric level. We started listening to seasonal music in August. We had Christmas trees in almost every room of our house. We hosted multiple events—from Secret Santa exchanges with my parents' friends to cookie decorating parties with my aunts and cousins to the traditional feast with all of our exuberant Italian relatives. In this whirlwind of festivities, my mom turned entertaining into an art form, and her energy was infectious. But now that I am an adult, celebrating the holiday season on my own terms feels essential in order to prioritize my eating disorder recovery.
Goodbyes are never easy, but as Winnie the Pooh would say: How lucky I am to make saying goodbye so hard. HealthyPlace came to me when I needed something to be hopeful for in my life. Although I was wrapping up undergrad and gearing up to start a new job, the Surviving Mental Health Stigma blog provided a fulfillment that nothing else could. I am eternally grateful to all of you for playing a role in my healing and giving me true purpose. Although I will no longer be writing for HealthyPlace, I will never stop fighting for mental health awareness and mitigating stigma.
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I've learned that placing high expectations on myself has resulted in perfectionist standards that have caused anxiety. Throughout my life, I grew up with high expectations that I later on learned would contribute to my anxiety levels. Being more aware of this has helped me focus on how I can reduce the anxiety I feel because of these high standards.

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Hey, I seen your comment and want to offer a little bit of hope. I’m a 25 year old female now but when I was 10 through to about 16 I used to steal money off my father. I think it was the thrill of not getting caught and just being bored which I’ll admit still doesn’t make it right and as an adult I still harbour a lot of guilt for my behaviour as a child.

My dad finally had enough one day and took me to a local police station to have a chat about it and it definitely helped to sink in the reality of the situation.

To make you feel a little hopeful as an adult my father out of all my sibling trusts me the most and we have a very close relationship. I wouldn’t take a penny off the floor now as an adult let alone take anything off anyone else. I was a child with a very underdeveloped sense of right and wrong and really struggled with impulse control. I have only just been diagnosed as an adult so wasn’t aware that these issues were signs of ADHD.

Do you think you could get a locked box/safe to hide the money to relieve temptation for a little while and maybe suggest to him that when he sees money around and feels any urge to take it to pick it up and move it to drawer or cupboard out of view?

Sorry for the long ramble, I hope you are able to manage to find a way for you both to manage the behaviour and support each other.
Im 13 now, I started sh when I was 6. I didn’t have a bad life but I couldn’t run away from abuse and drug/alcohol influence so I gave in and instead of being strong I started cutting. 5 small cuts, from years ago on my right wrist and I lost count on the left, I seriously can’t stop, sh is the only coping method that drives me away from suicide. I think of it as the closest way to death since ALL of my suicide attempts failed.
Almost sounds narcissistic I have beeN doing a ton of reading to try and understand the guy I was seeing that did the same. I can tell as we got closer he did this to protect himself from all the feelings he was having vs trying to hurt me.
I met a young lady who is bipolar she stayed with me for 4 days no sex involved and on the 5th day I said something and she just started going off verbally on me it didn't help that I yelled get out to her it's been 6 days since I have had any communication with her she has my phone number I really like her as a friend but it is starting to seem maybe I blew it with her and I am feeling sad and guilty over the way I reacted towards her what do I do now
Dawn Gressard
Hey Chima,
I want to start with thank you for reaching out... I have been in your shoes, feeling hopeless and that the world is a difficult place to be. I want you to know you are not alone. Truthfully.
There are resources and people ready to support you and help you through these thoughts and times of hopelessness. Please call or text 988 or click this link for other people to reach out to: